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…I spend as much on various forms of bread as I do on “actual” dishes.

but seriously, it is IMPOSSIBLE to order too much naan.  omnomnomnom!

I have eaten ALL OF THE NAAN.  all of it.  my tummy is a deeply contented, naan-filled place at the moment.

om freaking NOM, y'all.  (om freaking naan?)

note to self, order more naan next time.

due to an unfortunate streak of moving (five schools in five years, yay for being a university brat), I managed to get stuck sitting through sex ed four times in four school systems (in two different countries, two different states plus a province), including once in French.  it was pretty comprehensive on the whole, especially the last round, in high school - there was the usual listing of body parts and weird, not-quite-human-looking diagrams and the standard "this is how babies happen" talk, but there were also STDs and STIs, all the major forms of birth control sans fear-mongering, and even surprisingly "liberal" things like "lube is a good idea" and "abortions are a thing that happen, this is how they work" (with accurate information) and a reasonable lack of judgment on the whole.  there wasn't a ton about non-PIV and/or non-hetero sex, but they definitely got mentioned and there was a discussion and it was mostly ok.  it was, in short, as accurate and comprehensive as you can probably expect American sex ed to be.

but there was definitely no discussion of consent.  definitely no "no means no" speeches or anything along those lines.  the (brief) discussion of rape was centered around things like knowing about and avoiding date rape drugs (watch your drink, go out/go home in groups, etc.) and being safe around men in "potentially unsafe" situations, things like carrying your keys to use as a weapon - aka putting the onus on the woman to not get raped, rather than on the man to not rape.  throughout all the discussions that involved rape or sexual assault, rape was made to seem normal - normal that men rape, normal that women should feel unsafe, normal that you should have to watch your drink like a hawk and never walk home alone and yes, cross the street to avoid men, and so on.  no one ever said anything like "you are never obligated to have sex with anyone, for any reason," let alone initiated actual discussions of consent.

you've seen that survey they did of high school students showing when they thought it was "expected" for a girl to have sex with a guy, right?  if you haven't:  http://www.lisashea.com/lisabase/womensissues/whenisrapeok/ for a handful of studies, more links, etc.

I don't think teaching students to not rape is contentious, nor do I find it particularly radical.  I don't think that teaching about informed consent is contentious, nor do I find it particularly radical.  (note that radical ≠ rare.)  I do think the class that they mentioned in the photo should be mandatory for all students everywhere if it's even half as useful as the description would imply.  and the studies in the link above make it clear that this kind of education is very necessary.

one last thing, and then I'll shut up:  every time a woman is told not to get raped - whether that's by telling her to dress conservatively, or not go home alone, or not leave her drink, or avoid bars, or whatever else (all things we were told in sex ed) - you're actually telling her "make sure he rapes someone else, not you."  you're still assuming that it will happen and normalizing its occurrence, rather than making it clear that there's never a reason for anyone to commit rape in the first place and that it's completely unacceptable and inexcusable.  this is the message that we were given in sex ed.  healthy, no?

so yes, I would be astonished if your sex ed class managed to be that ahead of its time.  and if it was, good for you, but it was a rare, rare exception - the outlier, not the mean.

...I have a shirt from kindergarten that still fits.

how, you ask?  I literally have absolutely no idea.  (I mean, it was big on me in kindergarten, obviously.  but even so.  kindergarten was almost two decades ago now.)

Caitlyn Siehl, from Mythology (via heisenbergsays)