HOW TO BECOME UNRECOGNIZABLE [ 6 months before you show off the new you… ]
1. BEGIN TO HEAL
When we are wounded emotionally and psychologically — there is a version of us that is created that serves us no true good but to survive and keep us living day to day. A lot of the time this means we haven’t felt our feelings in a long while. You need to take some time to feel those things that broke you. Cry, scream, yell. You were wounded. Let yourself grieve the person/things that you were forced to see in a new light so that you can GET THAT SHIT OFF OF YOU.
the healing trio: therapy, movement, self-care
2. BEGIN TO TRY
You will not end up where you desire by operating the same way in any capacity. How are you a new woman and doing the things the present you does now? Elevate your life in the areas you desire to see change. It doesn’t mean spending money — intention is elevation to.
That could mean going to a different location to try the thing you’ve always wanted. Dressing little by little like the new you. And taking each day as an opportunity to put the new you on display.
Take the necessary time throughout your day to ask yourself “Does the me I desire to be do xyz?” “How would the new me feel about this?” “What would the new me do in this situation?”
you don’t need permission from anyone other than you to change.
3. BEGIN AGAIN
Meaning love yourself enough to begin again. Don’t hold your past against yourself. You did the best you could with what you had then — and now that you have new information to live life with — use it. Don’t be afraid to close chapters, friendships, relationships, that are no longer serving you ok? You can have more — but you have to choose and understand first that there is more. There IS better. Just because you don’t require the world of anyone — doesn’t in turn mean you deserve the bare minimum.
Pro-Tip: Begin dating yourself again. 💕 Reintroduce you.
You can read my post How To Begin Again for help with this.
4. BEGIN TO GROW
Don’t mistake this step for rigorously attacking your goals. The above steps are FAR MORE important and will result in the MOST flourishing even if you NEVER scratch a goal off of your list in the next 6 months.
This step is all about picking something you want to set out to accomplish. And when I say accomplish - I don’t mean an outcome. I mean setting out to establish yourself as the new you through patterns of behavior. Through patterns of choosing yourself.
Instead of making it a goal to make X amount of money or weigh X weight — the goal should be to be more mindful of your spending & worth at work…or to treat your body like the temple that it is. And you can do this by simply slowing down and using those questions in step 3 over and over for every little decision until listening to yourself and trusting yourself is second nature again.
Operating from a place of only seeing the value in ONE outcome (weighing X or making X) is called black and white thinking and is bad for our mental health. EMBRACE THE GRAY.




































