When people try to devalue polyamory theyâll bring up stories of people who had bad abusive polyamorous relationships. They take stories of cults, people who forced their partners to accept live in mistresses, and people without sexual boundaries and show them as proof that polyamory is dangerous, sexually deviant, and unsafe to be around kids. However each of these examples isnât evil because its polyamorous. Theyâre bad for other reasons. They include abuse, lack of communication and consent, double standards, brain washing, bad relationship rules, and lack of basic human decency. These things exist within bad monogamous relationships too.Â
Bad relationships will be bad whether theyâre monogamous or polyamorous. Abusive isnât intrinsic to either group. People being abused in polyamorous relationships shouldnât be encouraged to become monogamous, they should be encouraged to escape.Â












