hi. call me cerber. iâm gay and genderqueer. my health and psyche are in shambles but i prevail. dad of 2 cats. this blog is my pile of shiny things that i hoard like a magpie. i headcannon columbo as a butch he/him lesbian cuz i think itâs cool and fun. ПОМнО пО-ŃŃŃŃки ;)
my various stances and rules of engagement r under the cutđđť
last edit: 27/05/2026
some general rules of engagement:
keep in mind that iâm 26 when interacting with me
english isnât my 1st language! iâm also dyslexic and i talk kinda weird so bear with me
i suck at tagging triggers but iâm open to tag requests
donât tag my posts with âq-slurâ and such
i block very liberally and not gonna waste my time on assholes
assume that iâm speaking from my personal experience unless thereâs a disclaimer stating otherwise
few hills iâm still standing on as of rn:
trans people donât hold any meaningful power to oppress each other gender-wise
if your trans/feminism doesnât acknowledge that trans men and mascs do not benefit from and are oppressed by patriarchy, iâm not taking anything you say seriously
strong solidarity with people who are intersex, who are gender non-conforming, who are cistrans, detrans, or re-trans, post-gender, mspec, multigender, xeno, etc.
identity labels are tools. not laws, not science, not the holy bible of queerness
i donât believe in âpunching upâ. an oppressed group has no meaningful power to damage social positions of members of privileged groups without a coherent strategy and some serious organising. your hit will land sideways, and most likely will worsen the lives of those who are already less privileged than you. all the ways you can âpunchâ come from the toolbox of your oppressors; it doesnât matter how creative you get with trying to ârepurposeâ and â(re)inventâ slurs and other abuses - it will always hit the most vulnerable minorities first, without you even knowing. the system is designed that way, thereâs not workarounds and no shortcuts. if you care for anyone other than yourself - stop using your masterâs tools
i also donât believe in call-outs, punitive justice, reliability of gut reactions, ânarc abuseâ, bio- and gender essentialism, transmedicalism, and respectability politics
sex work is work; decriminalize sex work; swerfism doesnât do shit for sex workers, but unions do
USSR sucked. i donât mean it in a pro-capitalist/anti-communist way, it genuinely did suck
congrats, u made it to the end! thank you and stay inquisitive <3
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Last year JK Rowling personally funded a group called Sex Matters to amend UK law so that trans women *overnight* went from legally women to legally men. This has resulted in mass exclusion of the trans community from numerous organizations, along with ongoing violent assaults on both trans and cis women alike.
With the new Harry Potter series she will be making a reported $20 million per-season renewal + other performance dependent royalties. She has been open across multiple interviews regarding her intentions to use said funds to push forth even more trans targeted legislation in the years to come.
This isnât a âshe gets paid no matter whatâ situation. The more eyeballs on this show the more money she has to actively harm vulnerable communities. By engaging with it you are directly supporting this and otherwise making a conscious choice to consume HP over doing the literal very least possible to not destroy the lives of trans people across the world.
If my stating the objective facts above upsets you then feel free to unfriend and move along. Your nostalgia-goggles feelings for a tired, problematic franchise mean nothing to me compared to the welfare of my trans friends and loved ones."
If you care more about badly written children's books and imaginary wizards more than you do about real people in the real world do it far the fuck away from me.
Don't try to be in my life.
In fact, you are cordially invited to eat shit and die.
is it crazy to say that the only reason people make jokes like "i bet (conservative male politician) has a grindr account đ¤Ł" or other jokes about republicans being closeted homosexuals is that they think being secretly gay or being a hypocrite is more shameful and worthy of mockery than holding homophobic beliefs
like no matter how you spin it, the punchline is always "i bet theyre gay lol thats weird". even when you try to defend gay people you cant help but to make our existence the butt of the joke
As trans people begin to organize politically, it is tempting to adopt the essentialist notion of gender identity. The clichĂŠ popularized by the mass media is that trans people are "women trapped in men's bodies" or vice versa. The attractiveness of such a strategy is clear, as the general population is more likely to become supportive of us if we could convince them that we are somehow born with a biological error over which we have no control over it. It is also often in tune with our own sense of who we are, which feels very deep and fundamental to us. However, as transfeminists, we resist such temptations because of their implications.
Trans people have often been described as those whose physical sex does not match the gender of their mind or soul. This explanation might make sense intuitively, but it is nonetheless problematic for transfeminism. To say that one has a female mind or soul would mean there are male and female minds that are different from each other in some identifiable way, which in turn may be used to justify discrimination against women. Essentializing our gender identity can be just as dangerous as resorting to biological essentialism.
Transfeminism believes that we construct our own gender identities based on what feels genuine, comfortable and sincere to us as we live and relate to others within given social and cultural constraint. This holds true for those whose gender identity is in congruence with their birth sex, as well as for trans people. Our demand for recognition and respect shall in no way be weakened by this acknowledgement. Instead of justifying our existence through the reverse essentialism, transfeminism dismantles the essentialist assumption of the normativity of the sex/gender congruence.
from The Transfeminist Manifesto (2001) by Emi Koyama. This quote is from the section "Deconstructing the Reverse Essentialism"
Social construction of biological sex is more than an abstract observation: it is a physical reality that many intersex people go through. Because society makes no provision for the existence of people whose anatomical characteristics do not neatly fit into male or female, they are routinely mutilated by medical professionals and manipulated into living as their assigned sex. Intersex people are usually not given an opportunity to decide for themselves how they wish to live and whether or not they want surgical or hormonal âcorrection.â Many intersex people find it appalling that they had no say in such a major life decision, whether or not their gender identity happen to match their assigned sex. We believe that genital mutilation of intersex children is inherently abusive because it unnecessarily violates the integrity of their bodies without proper consent. The issue is not even whether or not the sex one was assigned matches her or his gender identity; it is whether or not intersex people are given real choice over what happens to their bodies.
Trans people feel dissatisfied with the sex assigned to them without their consent according to the simplistic medical standard. Trans people are diverse: some identify and live as members of the sex different from what was assigned to them by medical authorities, either with or without medical intervention, while others identify with neither or both of male and female sexes. Trans liberation is about taking back the right to define ourselves from medical, religious and political authorities. Transfeminism views any method of assigning sex to be socially and politically constructed, and advocates a social arrangement where one is free to assign her or his own sex (or non-sex, for that matter).
from The Transfeminist Manifesto (2001) by Emi Koyama. This quote is from the section "Deconstructing the Reverse Essentialism"
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While the second wave of feminism popularized the idea that one's gender is distinct from her or his physiological sex and is socially and culturally constructed, it largely left unquestioned the belief that there was such a thing as true physical sex. The separation of gender from sex was a powerful rhetoric used to break down compulsory gender roles, but allowed feminists to question only half of the problem, leaving the naturalness of essential female and male sexes until recently.
Transfeminism holds that sex and gender are both socially constructed; furthermore, the distinction between sex and gender is artificially drawn as a matter of convenience. While the concept of gender as a social construct has proven to be a powerful tool in dismantling traditional attitudes toward women's capabilities, it left room for one to justify certain discriminatory policies or structures as having a biological basis. It also failed to address the realities of trans experiences in which physical sex is felt more artificial and changeable than their inner sense of who they are.
from The Transfeminist Manifesto (2001) by Emi Koyama. This quote is from the section "Deconstructing the Reverse Essentialism"
Primary principles of transfeminism are simple. First, it is our belief that each individual has the right to define her or his own identities and to expect society to respect them. This also includes the right to express our gender without fear of discrimination or violence. Second, we hold that we have the sole right to make decisions regarding our own bodies, and that no political, medical or religious authority shall violate the integrity of our bodies against our will or impede our decisions regarding what we do with them. [...]
Transfeminism holds that nobody shall be coerced into or out of personal decisions regarding her or his gender identity or expression in order to be a "real" woman or a ârealâ man. We also believe that nobody should be coerced into or out of these personal decisions in order to qualify as a "real" feminist.
from The Transfeminist Manifesto (2001) by Emi Koyama. This quote is from the section "Primary Principles"
It was in response to this climate [feminist hostility to trans women] I wrote the piece âThe Transfeminist Manifesto,â which was later published in the anthology Catching a Wave: Reclaiming Feminism for the 21st Century edited by Rory Dicker and Alison Piepmeier. The manifesto addressed various feminist concerns, such as reproductive choice and health and violence against women, and discussed how transsexual women share many of the concerns of other women. I wanted to write a feminist theory that counter the argument that transsexual women were so different from all other women that there is no place for transsexual women within feminism (or that feminism has no use for transsexual women). I wanted to provide easy-to-repeat arguments that pro-trans feminists can use to confront blatant bigotry and falsehoods against transsexual women. And to these ends, I think âManifestoâ was successful.
But there was something unsettling about the âManifesto.â In an effort to forge an alliance between transsexual and non-transsexual women, the piece neglected the struggles of transsexual men and other transgender or genderqueer people who do not identify as âwomenâ unless it was convenient to include them. The piece was also weak on intersectional analysisâthat is, how anti-trans sentiments and oppressions compound and complicate oppressions other than sexism, including and especially racism and classism. It borrowed from the work of women of color when it was usefulâfor example, to point out that transsexual womenâs unique experiences should not be the basis for their exclusion because to do so would presuppose a singular universal female experience, which is obviously falseâwithout contributing any insights as to how the inclusion of trans sensibility helps to fight racism and other oppressions.
The fact is, I had only been living in my new home town for three months or so when I wrote this piece, and I was not fully in touch with my own discomfort with the white feminism that filled nine out of ten weeks of the Introduction to Womenâs Studies, nor did I feel confident enough to challenge the view that feminism is simply about advocating for women and fighting sexismâand nothing more. In short, what I had written was a version of white feminism that was modified just enough to include transsexual women. At the time, I felt that it was the only safe way to write a feminist theory that advanced transsexual womenâs place within feminism. I spent next couple of years meeting more people with a common commitment for justice for all, slowly building the self-confidence it takes to âtransform silence into language and action,â as Audre famously stated.
from Racist Feminism at the National Womenâs Studies Association (2008), attached to the The Transfeminist Manifesto by Emi Koyama.
Hot take but rigid divisions between queer identities and heavily-policed labels that are treated like diagnoses are really, really bad.
Trans men have shared histories with lesbians who have shared histories with bisexual women who have shared histories with ace people who have shared histories with aro people have shared histories with gay men who have shared histories with trans women who have shared histories with nonbinary people who have shared histories with etc etc etc etc etc.
Labels are important for people who want them, but we need to stop treating sexuality and gender as rigid boxes and checklists.
(Please note that this piece is also called Night and Day in several sources, and I cannot find which one is correct. The artistâs own website doesnât list a title. If anyone sees a definitive source for the title, please share!)
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Incredible work simultaneously blaming trans men for their own need to join teams that donât align with their identity (or else end their careers entirely) while reaffirming the sexist structure of sports but like, wokely. I agree this and all âwomenâs teamsâ should sign trans women but like what are we doing here. Why are we acting like this is some kind of unforgivable misogynistic act that poor wombyn are going to be FORCED to play with a MAN (no itâs ok heâs trans so itâs actually super affirming to say that!!!) and not like. Focus on how it sucks that trans athletes have to make these kinds of choices. Wait I know why itâs bc hating transmasculine ppl is considered cool right now
fascinating that trans men being barred from mens sports and having to either participate in women's or not participate at all is considered a privilege that we have over trans women and not fucking transphobia. more proof that they dont view us as trans
also trans men who play on womens sports cant take testosterone, meaning that they cant transition in a way that most trans men want or need to. and trans men on t also typically cant play on mens sports. so not only are trans men often forced to either play on womens teams or not at all, but if they play on womens theyre barred from medical transition. real trans male privilege huh
Does anyone else remember Mack Beggs, the trans guy wrestler who was forced to compete in his high schoolâs girls team and the only people mad about it were transphobes while the rest of us understood he would rather have been on the boyâs team? Why is it back then we could understand âoh, heâs on the girls team because he has no other choiceâ but now itâs âwhy is this MAN on the WOMENâS team? Clearly heâs stealing a spot meant for a trans woman!â Or uh. Or he wants to play soccer. And heâs a trans man. And heâs not allowed on the menâs team. Because the United Soccer Leagueâs rules state you have to join the team that corresponds to your assigned sex at birth.
Also if you read any statements made by Isaac Ranson himself, youâd know heâs not okay with being misgendered and that he researched the team to see if they would be accepting of him as a man before signing on. On Minnesota Auroraâs website they explicitly say theyâre for âwomen, girls, and gender expansive peopleâ and have the phrase âtrans women are womenâ clearly on there. When the coach is quoted talking about Isaac she clearly uses he/him pronouns for him. This is a team who is actively trying to support a trans man not because they think heâs a woman and wouldnât let a trans woman on if they could, but because theyâre trans inclusive and stuck working within a shitty transphobic system just like he is.
Would I prefer he be on the menâs team? Absolutely. But the blame lies with the USL. Not him. Not Aurora. You donât have to be a sports fan to understand this.
I donât say this to be inflammatory. This is something I wholeheartedly believe because I see it myself all the time. Violence and transphobic rhetoric about transgender men is so normalized that it doesnât even register to people and often gets repeated.
One of the most obnoxious examples of this is about once a month I see post/post cast clip/hear from someone irl that they think JK Rowling is an in denial trans man. Theyâll take the quotes from her about how were she born in this generation, she wouldâve been trans and that âthe allure of escaping womanhood would have been too much to resistâ and say she obviously a trans man.
But by believing this you havenât discovered some secret of hers. Rowling quite literally wants you to believe she wouldâve been trans to lend herself credence into the trans conversation. And you are agreeing with her and the TERFs that reason transmasculine people transition is because of internalized misogyny and peer pressure.
Why can you understand sheâs a lying, manipulative demon when she speaks about trans women or trans people broadly, but take her and TERFs at their word when it comes to trans men? You are dangerously susceptible to propaganda and absolutely spineless.
Insurgent Survival: Reflections on the Fight Against Sweeps Targeting the Homeless in Austin, Texas
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In 2019, militants in Austin, Texas started an organization with the aim of defending homeless camps against sweepsâforced removals disguised as âcleanupsâ carried out by police and work crews. We explore the history of Stop the Sweeps and the strategic thinking behind it, seeking to distill lessons about autonomous organization that can aid revolutionaries in future struggles.
"The camp is an image of the futureâa future in which increased economic precarity, climate crises, wars, and state repression produce new waves of displacement and migration, and new forms of repression and managerial governance arise in response."
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