I'm Attention Deficit in High Definition

One of the things that ended up driving us apart in the end though is that they didn’t believe me when I told them this. They didn’t believe that I didn’t care about their disabilities. They didn’t believe that I was prepared to support them because my love turned all of that work into nothing.

As we drifted apart I learned something about myself. I can only fight to try to make someone believe that I care about them for so long. The hospital visits, the care tasks, the financial stuff, the limitations, I don’t care about. I could do that forever without a second thought. Fighting to be believed though? To have my love for someone questioned by them at every turn? I can’t do that.

One of the things that ended up driving us apart in the end though is that they didn’t believe me when I told them this. They didn’t believe that I didn’t care about their disabilities. They didn’t believe that I was prepared to support them because my love turned all of that work into nothing.

As we drifted apart I learned something about myself. I can only fight to try to make someone believe that I care about them for so long. The hospital visits, the care tasks, the financial stuff, the limitations, I don’t care about. I could do that forever without a second thought. Fighting to be believed though? To have my love for someone questioned by them at every turn? I can’t do that.

So this is what a Goblin Shark actually looks like…

imagine this alien species you heard so much about, that helped save your planet, finally after years shows up on your doorstep and everyone's like scrambling to get together every scrap of information about eridians that they got from grace to be as welcoming as possible, but when the ship finally lands (you briefly wonder why they chose the ocean but probably it's just easier to land there) these rocks come out in suits perfectly crafted for the atmosphere and gravity, walk up to you and hold out their hand to you. you think, huh, weird that these aliens have the same customs as us humans re handshaking, but reach out to shake their hand anyway. maybe you even actually realise that they might be imitating what they have learned from Grace, but you certainly don't expect it, when, after the pleasantries are over, the alien explains to you that due to the geopolitical situation on earth they elected to land on international waters, they already thought about the difficulties of establishing contact with a planet made up of multiple countries not necessarily working together and thus see the United Nations as a good starting point, but also they have these notes on them if you'd be so kind to distribute them, they just need you email address. you are too shocked to get any words out save for 'hgnk' and instead you hold out your business card with shaking fingers, only to immediately have a panic attack because you just handed a card to someone who cant SEE this has to be the greatest faux pas in the entirety of human history. but the alien seems completely unfazed, almost as if they were expecting it, just facing a weird implement in their suit in the direction of the card, while their other arm is? placing something in your hand? you retract your hand and then stare without comprehending at a rectangle of some sort of material with raised text, which for some reason reads:

E.T.

Human-Eridian Liaison Officer

Human Eridian Liason and Logistics Organisation (HELLO)

E-Mail: [email protected]

the buried/ the vast/ the eye

The idea that system matters is reducible to recognising that toys have affordances; while there is of course no "wrong" way to play with a toy, no amount of open-mindedness will readily fit a bicycle through a basketball hoop.

It puts a line under one of the main objections to the "why not just freeform it?" thing; if folks are discussing how to make or modify a toy to achieve a particular set of affordances, blundering into the conversation going "why bother with toys when you can Use Your Imagination?" is unlikely to be well received!