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Is there such thing as practice sex? Like does anyone ever lead with "I don't want this to be like a performance and I also don't care if you're not attracted to me. I just want someone to coach me on this one specific thing and I want to practice doing it and if we suddenly need to stop because I'm in (chronic) pain then it'll be okay."

1. Being on a dating app and open with "I am not experienced but want to learn" or something of the sort. There are plenty of people that like being the teacher in the situation you just gotta hope they're on the apps while you are. You will tend to get people tho that get off on being the teacher so if you want someone who's not explicitly attracted to it this isn't a great option

2. Having an extremely open friend. I've had friends that I've made out with or done other things no romantic strings attached just to see how we were at certain things. This is usually very hard just cause a lot of people aren't really sexually open enough to casually drop their pants to their friends. But there are still many out there who have sex with friends for fun or to teach.

3. Kink events. This is where you will find the best results imo. You might not find someone who's gonna teach you right then and there at the party but the people here are the most sexually open. Just make sure to vet people first. And check FetLife for events even if your in a tiny town. You'd be surprised how many places have an active kink scene or places near you that do. Be wary of people hear that are actively trying to find inexperienced people to teach. But befriending people in these spaces is basically a fast track to the second option without the waiting to see if they'd be weird about it. You could also get a more round about experience of watching people do it having them explain. This tends to be a bit of a fantasy for some people anyway so you can feel less awkward knowing it's a good experience for everyone

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