"First, I have to take you back to 12-year-old me in a little town in Germany. Pretty much every weekend, my dad used to take me on trips to get my transition going. We would go on road trips basically to every major (and not major)city in Germany lol. Since my dad is an architect, he used to always take pride in showing me buildings that were either architecturally significant or just buildings he liked. There was one building in particular which was a brutalist post office that we both agreed was really good. Next time we went to that same city, a few years later, the building had been knocked down and there were plans for a pretty run-of-the-mill apartment building that was gonna get built in the spot. My dad and I both agreed they ruined something perfect and beautiful for something very agreeable. We both felt like this had ruined the city, while people who live in that new apartment building probably think it’s the best thing.
One thing that has always circled around me since I was a child is this opinion that transition is ruining something perfect and natural and sacred… and to be honest, I still struggle with this every now and then. It really gets to me, no matter how much I work on myself and my self-confidence and my self-worth lol. No matter how you flip it, me and my dad were also guilty of saying ‘they ruined it’ just like my grandma telling my dad that we are going on these drives to ruin my life (love you, grandma!). [...]
Anyways, no matter how much people think they know better than you on what your life should be… if ruining it feels right… you gotta do it."
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