As a top, what is your advice for bratty subs to make their brattiness fun for everyone?

Personally, my desire to brat seeks a number of things, essentially, receiving a witty, authoritative remark, earning a funishment, building up the intensity of an already ongoing punishment or prompt an explicit sign of who's actually in charge.

Also, bratting is just fun. There's so much wittiness involved, it allows for intellectual teasing, and it sparks "sex with words", as you once described kink. I don't think people realise how much they actually do it in their everyday lives. In my opinion, most funny and charismatic individuals are just well-timed brats.

Do you enjoy dealing with brats and, if so, do you consider yourself a good brat tamer?

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Excellent questions. Thank you!

My best advice to any wannabe brat is to treat bratting as a kind of kinky improvisation - as a special kind of eroticised flirting that just happens to have a spanking at the end.

When playing any character, it helps to know your motivation. In this case, a brat should know her goal is not to evade her spanking, but to achieve it in the most memorable way.

Once a brat accepts her ultimate fate is to have a sore pink bum and her wetness dribbling between her legs, her challenge becomes: how do I make that happen in the most fun and exciting way I can?

The art of impro is keeping the energy of the scene high, so it flows effortlessly. The golden rule is to offer rather than block. Participants should be able to play off each others' responses, rather than be disagreeable or contrarian, as that saps the energy of the scene. Offering means giving your partner something to riff off, rather than trying to trump them with a comment that has no comebacks.

The brat's role in the scene is to offer their partner the opportunity to be stern and strict. Like you correctly point out, a brat should be witty and cheeky, since these provide a context for erotic escalation, and threats make brats wet. Such threats have nothing to do with intimidation and everything to do with giving the top the opportunity to give her the attention she craves.

A brat is still submissive by nature, just one who's bold enough to talk back. When threatened with a spanking when she gets home, a non-bratty sub might plead for mercy, or meekly acknowledge her fate, whilst a brat might tease: "I love it when you tickle my bottom with the hairbrush." See how that comment is playfully flirty, rather than a dead end like "Oh no you won't!".

Hence I agree entirely with your observation that funny and charismatic individuals are channelling their inner brat. The ability to be erotically creative and funny is a tremendously attractive trait, that's why brats are so alluring and energising.

Naughty girls often deny it, claiming it would be embarrassingly awful to be spanked in front of others, but I know that just thinking about a public spanking makes most girls squirmy and wet.

So I would be extremely pleased, and very proud of you, if you obediently asked for your spanking in front of others. Natually, I would facilitate your request.

I'd start by instructing you to take off your panties and hand them to me. I'd then pass them to my guests, so they can see for themselves what the mess that the prospect of a spanking inspires.

I'd ask them if they'd like to watch your spanking. Their curiosity piqued, there's little chance they'll want to leave.

Once you've removed and neatly folded up your skirt, I'd put you over my knee in such a way that my guests have an unobstructed view.

Then I'd demonstrate the techniques of a good spanking, where to smack, how hard, and the proper slow tempo with spaces between the spanks. I could also demonstrate different implements, and the kind of smacks they impart. I would draw attention to what effect smacks on the bum have on the intimate places in between.

Afterwards, I'd send you to the corner with your arms folded behind your back, and your rosy bottom on display. You can listen in on our conversation as we talk about the importance of strict discipline, and our favourite little bottom smacking rituals.

Did you really think you could get away with being a little brat?

I gave you all day to confess and you didn't, so this is your punishment.

I'm going to put this toy in you and youre going to sit there and think about what you did wrong.

Youre sorry? You had all day to say that and now you're saying that after you're starting to get punished.

Yes, it vibrates. Get over it

Be a good little pet and take your punishment properly.

Go ahead and squeeze your little hole against the toy. Does it feel like a lot? Too bad

Oh youre gonna cum? Like I care. Cum all you want

When he gets there, I’ll be waiting on my knees with my eyes down for his inspection. below are Sir’s expectation for my full submission to him.

🗝️ Slut will use proper manners, always addressing her owner as Sir or Master.

🗝️ “No” and “stop” do not exist because slut is an object.

🗝️ Slut will wear her necklace or collar and whatever outfit Sir has chosen.

🗝️ Slut will never look Master in the eye without his guidance. Proper posture reminds her of her place.

🗝️ Master will initiate full submission by telling his slut to get ready to serve him. Slut will go to their room, strip, and wait for inspection and instruction.

🗝️ Slut will stay on all fours, unless instructed otherwise, including crawling.

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Disclaimer: our safe word remains in place regardless of my level of submission to Sir.

I’m naked and tied next to him on the floor, drool dripping from my gagged mouth and onto my chest. The vibrator has been been pressed to my pussy for nearly an hour - switching off each time I near an orgasm.

He’s holding the vibrator remote, keeping me on the edge of an orgasm. Keeping me on the edge of tears. The edge of sanity.

I whine through the gag. My desperate eyes on him, looking for relief and searching for mercy in his face.

He doesn’t look up. He turns the page of his book and the vibrator switches back on.

Relaxed. Clothed. Barely paying attention to me.

This is written mostly for inexperienced subs who are seeking doms. I would also recomend less experienced doms read as well, I could have used a lot of this advice when I first got started. If you have a lot of S&M experience, you probably won't get much from this post. Feel free to add to it if you reblog. Full checklist under the cut.

Objectification -> You are a hole to fuck

Degradation -> Your holes are worthless and filthy

Ownership -> Your holes belong to me

Praise -> Your holes feel so good

Objectification and praise -> You are such a good fuck toy

Objectification and Degradation -> You are a worthless fuck hole

Objectification and ownership -> You are my personal fuck toy

Degradation and ownership -> You are mine to destroy. I will ruin you.

Degradation and praise -> You are such a pretty little cum slut

Ownership and praise -> You are my favorite- I love owning you

Objectification, Degradation and Praise -> You are the best little cum hole

Objectification, Degradation, praise and Ownership -> You are my favorite cum filled hole to fuck.

Go to RopeBite.com to find casual/educational meetups, or make a Fetlife account and search for “[My City] Rope.”  Classes, Munches or Skill Shares are a good place to start.  

But I’m shyyyyyyyyyyyy

I can relate.  But the bright side is, those events tend to be EXTREMELY newbie friendly.  When I ran a monthly rope event, we probably had an average of 2-3 people per month who wandered in like “This is my first time…..  so uhhhh…..  how do I…. like….  do this?”

Trust me, at a place like Rope Bite, they’re used to that.  Going without a partner is probably ok too; just be polite.  More here, here, and here.

What Rope Should I Buy?  

Here’s my short answer Here’s a more comprehensive breakdown of different rope types

How much rope do I need to tie someone up?

3 to get someone tied up,  5 to really have some fun,  7 for most non-suspension applications.

How long should ropes be?

When in doubt, you sorta can’t go wrong with 25-26 feet (about 8 meters). But, Your Ideal Length actually depends on a couple of things.  

Also, different tying styles tend to prefer different lengths.   Personally, I prefer 23 feet for most of my ropes (Here’s why)

Can heavier people be suspended?

Totally.  I’m personally like, moderately pudgy? I’ve been suspended on numerous occasions.  

Learnings and Stuff

Video Tutorials an incomplete list of my favorites

All About Cutting Tools to keep handy when you tie someone up

Ropey Book Recommendations.  and also this.  

Photography Tutorials.  First one.  Second one.  Also this.  

Suspension Rigs / Anchor Points Breakdown

Nerve Safety

Upper Limb Nerve Safety: The Basics (by me)

Nerve Safety Breakdown (also by me)

Lower Limb Nerve Safety (presentation by me, with special help from @ropebaby​) 

Anatomy for Rope (youtube video by ipCookieMonster and friends)