cowabunga

The small voice in your head that says: "I don't need to write down every small detail of this plot idea, I love it so much, I'll remember this."

hey as long as discourse on whether joining the military is bad or not (it is) is doing the rounds again, i’d like to remind everyone that people who were in the military but are not any longer are not ontologically incapable of being leftists or good people. many of the military’s harshest critics are vets. they’ve seen what the military can do. they’ve personally been chewed up and spat. so have their friends. they know first hand the horrors the military has inflicted on the world.

although if we ARE talking about passive aggression my technique is generally (and I have had a LOT OF PRACTICE developing it lmao) is to interpret what I think they're implying and then say "are you asking me to (x)?" in a very polite tone with a friendly (sincere! not mocking!) smile. I find that this often 1. ceases the tiresome cycle of ignoring passive aggressive behavior -> behavior escalates -> ignore it -> it escalates, and on and on that you get if you simply ignore it, 2. lets the person know that in the future they can just fucking ask you directly for god's sake, and very importantly 3. although I strive not to sound condescending when I do this, it is inescapably and obviously something that I learned to say when talking to toddlers. the people I use this with the most (mostly older female relatives but not infrequently on men as well) will often catch a hint of that and sort of realize that their method of approaching me was childish, not in a derogatory sense, but in the sense that they don't need to try to get me to do stuff in the way they got used to working in the past. they can do it differently.

I use this technique on my grandmother a lot.

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