Pchelik's hive

in which simon singlehandedly salvages a social interaction (full page under cut)

That list might say things like “Paint a picture. Go birdwatching. Finish that great novel I started reading. Call my grandma. Learn to bake a cake. Visit my sister. Play piano.”

I suspect "lazy" is an ableist term.

It's used to describe neurodiverse people, the chronically ill, the mentally ill(And I'm talking about both those diagnosed and those undiagnosed), and simply people who are tired or don't want to do something for their own reasons. Simply not wanting to is a reason and doesn't make you lazy. A slight desire to do something but not enough to actually do it is also a reason, not lazy(which is a negative word).

No one is truly lazy. If we didn't use that word, fewer disabled people would suffer from this, but also able-bodied people would suffer less from low self-esteem and will have healthier boundaries!

Calling someone lazy often discourages understanding. Instead of asking "What's making this difficult?", "Why you don't do this?" or "What does this person need?" this label "lazy" ends the conversation with blame.

And listen: No, "But my friend didn't do this because they're lazy, not because of *the list of reasons I mentioned above*" is Not valid. How do you know what your friend is experiencing? Are you in their body? Are you in their mind?

"But I'm lazy!" How can you be sure that you are "lazy" if this label was imposed on you by society?

"I don't do this and I don't know why I don't do it" is also a reason. It often shows that something is wrong. Perhaps you have a neurotype that would explain this, perhaps a mental disorder, a chronic illness, a some common illness, or simple human stress that you haven't noticed in yourself today.

If we dropped the "lazy" label and instead gave the real reason like "I don't want to" or "I'm tired" the world would be a much healthier place than it is now, and so would you.

-sometines, but not always, owned by someone from china

-clothes that will either last half an eternity or come with the seams already ripped

-clothes that you don't know who would put on and are scared to ask so you just slide it back. You can feel that it's been there for ages.

-knockoff toys that look like they came from an alternate universe

-on the cash register: cosmetics called things like "vaealine," novelty lighters, slime, stim toys, nail polish that will either chip off in a day or smell like car paint and not budge not even with acetone