Past Imperfect

bojack horseman really treated hollyhock loosing a large amount weight from being secretly drugged as something bad and unhealthy and not as something with a silver lining bc she was now thin and then had her gain the weight back with no one making comments about how that was “unhealthy” and appropriately showed the fact that she was traumatized by the event and not secretly grateful other shows CAN NOT RELATE 

Woman murders man in broad daylight

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beautiful like to reblog ratio on this

That's because people are reblogging it every time they see it. Like I'm doing right now lmao

Ive said this before but swear the biggest skill to learn as an adult is how to resist high-pressure sales tactics. You do NOT have to answer questions with anything other than "Sorry I'm not interested." No matter how nice they are or no matter how many follow up questions they ask or even how agitated they get when you stand your ground. Just keep saying I'm not interested. Don't answer their questions. Don't give them an opening to try to push back on your reasons. Be a fucking brick wall of I'm not interested.

Mike Flannagan’s Sharp Objects Pitch: A reporter goes back to her hometown to investigate a murder and must stay with her estranged mother. They bond over the tragic death of her sister, which was no one’s fault because it was a ghost who targets innocent girls. Though initially hesitant, the reporter also builds the foundation of a new relationship with her youngest sister, the curious young Amma. Despite Amma’s happy childhood, she is now being haunted by the same ghost. The reporter and her mother must band together to save little Amma before it’s too late. In the end their mother sacrifices her own life to save them both and they see a vision of her dressed as Persephone keeping the ghost girls safe even in death, because a mother’s love is eternal

having the Aviation Accident Investigations Autism™️ has actually done wonders for the way I process and respond to my own fuck-ups

This is such a good example of systemic solutions to problems!! Putting it in my pocket for explaining problem-solving vs. blame and punishment in the future.

huh? pompeii? nah dude that song’s so old and overplayed, if the radio station puts that song on one more fucking time I’m gonna—-EH EH OH EH OH EH EH OH EH OH

Quest: help Oprah find and destroy Dr Phil

There is this sort of paradox in unhealthy relationships where the victim will waver on if what their partner is doing to them does or does not rise to the level of abuse. I want to say that it does not matter if what your partner is doing to you fits the dictionary or legal or your personal definition of ‘abuse’. If you are in a relationship where it has gotten to the point that you’re wondering if you’re being abused or not, it’s time to start thinking of an exit strategy and putting it into motion. So many people stay in terrible relationships because ‘it’s not abusive’, so many people are waiting for their partner to do something egregious and undeniably abusive before they give themself the permission to leave, when that moment happens, when they hit you or break your phone or scream at you all night before a job interview, the goalpost for what is unacceptable will shift further and further away. Ultimately, it does not matter if your toxic partner is or is not abusive in this moment, if they are doing/saying things that make you feel worse about yourself, feel embarrassed about yourself, feel unsafe, feel smothered, feel dependent on them, feel stupid, etc., it is time to go. It doesn’t matter if you’re actually the problem repeatedly setting them off, stop weighing that, maybe they WOULD be happier with another partner, all the more reason to get the fuck away from them and focus on yourself instead. If your partner is making your life worse, go. If your partner is making your life sooooo much better but there are just these little moments where they make you hate yourself, go. Stop qualifying and looking for a justification to go, just leave knowing life is too short to have misery inflicted on you, whether it is abuse or not.

This is also an effective way to pressure you to give up your job, maybe even cause you to get fired.

anorexia as class signaling in the US needs a dissertation atp because that's genuinely why celebrities are like that. it's not just being thin but underweight to the point where if you didn't have proper resources, you would be unable to function in daily life. that's where class comes into play. it's a way of saying you can afford to live on the edge. I fully believe this

to be clear i'm not saying that's the only factor at play here, just a more blatantly emerging one in modern times

Have you ever been severely anorexic? Or so thin that people were concerned that you were starving to death? Because I can tell you that "oh wow she's so thin she must need servants, she must not be able to lift a finger" is simply not part of how extreme thinness is understood. The idea that anorexia is an ideal because extreme thinness requires starvation and thus carries all of the health consequences of starvation is...like, the idealization of ultrathin bodies is only really possible because we refuse to make that connection. If anything, we require women who display a level of extreme thinness that can only be achieved through starvation to lie, constantly, about how they are not only healthy but enjoying superior health, are especially active and energetic, athletic and strong. Demi Moore's "muscular arms" in that one red carpet strut where she looks like an anatomical illustration, etc.