Based on some of the anons I'm receiving, I just want to clarify that pastimperfection is not me. I have no idea who they are. In fact, I blocked them months ago.
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The extent to which gender role norms and expectations impacts people with ADHD, how they get diagnosed or not diagnosed with adhd, and how they treat/relate to/cope with their ADHD is absolutely insane.
Also there's no such thing as "boy ADHD" and "girl ADHD" but there is absolutely a certain kind of cis man with ADHD whose problems aren't actually solely attributable to having ADHD â but are at least partly his unexamined reinforcement of gender roles and gendered expectations of the women in his life.
Like, dude: the problem isn't that you have ADHD which means you struggle with completing tasks and memory, and that's why your wife/girlfriend is fed up with youâ the problem is that you expect her to be your entire system of household and time management to manage your adhd, and to also explain every chore for you because she's the woman.
AI exposure may lead to occupational restructuring rather than job loss
Kristen Broady at the Federal Reserve Bank of Chicago and co-authors compare employment and wage changes between 2019 and 2024 across occupations with varying exposure to generative AI and risk of automation. Employment in occupations with the highest AI exposure increased 4% over the period, while employment in occupations with the lowest exposure ended slightly below the 2019 level; wages increased in both groups. Occupations with high and moderate automation risk experienced average employment declines, but outcomes varied widely across occupations. The authors argue that measures of AI and automation exposure are better viewed as indicators of potential changes in an occupationâs tasks and skill requirements than as direct predictors of job loss.
ÂŤ Thereâs a metaphor I heard a long time ago when I was a philosophy student: an actress is on stage in a theatre when she sees a fire in the wings. She tells the audience thereâs a fire and that they must get out. The audience thinks this is part of the play and they ignore her instruction. The more animated and urgent she becomes, the more delighted they are by her passionate and brilliant acting. Thereâs nothing she can do to speak beyond her role as an actress; every attempt only affirms the role.
I think this metaphor was part of a feminism course, but its wider resonance has never left me. Its relevance to life often applies. Here and now, in the eyes of the doctor, I am just neurotic and self-obsessed. The more I do to be listened to as a human being, the more I strengthen my role as neurotic and self-obsessed. The less she listens to me the more I tell or show her that I'm suffering. The more I tell or show her Iâm suffering the more she thinks I am neurotic and self-obsessed. Each time, my role is reinforced and my role overrides my humanity. I become less human in her eyes. I am a type. I annoy her and waste her time [âŚ].
No part of me wants to go to the doctor. Iâve come to dread it, to feel in it an absolute humiliation. I see her about insomnia as seldom as I can and when I go it is always for something specific; a prescription or, as before, a blood test. [âŚ] I wondered if it would be possible to have another blood test, I say. Everything I read about insomnia says you should rule out any underlying medical cause, and that hasnât been done. I know itâs a long shot, but it would help me. Just to eliminate other causes would help me.
She turns to her computer and is silent. Finally, without any eye contact, she says, This is not a shop. [âŚ]
Rage and exhaustion are much the same sensation, I discover, a flame struggling out of the same dead fire. Anger is alive, energetic, object-oriented, but rage is whatâs left, eating itself alive. Rage and exhaustion eat me alive. [âŚ] A lifetime of courting favours and having manners and asking nicely and never minding, never minding if the answer is no. Âť
it's fascinating that the only sexual relationships we see armand enter after marius are with people he has direct power over. we know he sleeps with the other members of the paris coven, his "flock"- he asserts himself as lestat's coven master as soon as they meet and they only begin a sexual relationship after lestat starts calling him "maitre"- and he demurs from louis' advances until right after claudia joins the coven and becomes one of armand's subjects. i think it says a lot about armand's relationship to power and to sexual agency in particular that even though he prefers being submissive in the bedroom, he doesn't like ceding any material power to his partners- he's not only older and more powerful than them as a vampire, but he has absolute "legal" authority over their lives (or over one of their loved ones in louis and claudia's case, since louis himself refused to join).
even if you're an absolute source material loyalist who's like "armand and lestat never slept together armand was lying" the way armand describes their relationship is still relevant to armand's character- if you think it's a fantasy, how does he build that fantasy?? it's clearly very important to armand that lestat recognized him as his master before they began their affair, even though we know armand could already throw lestat around like a ragdoll and lestat was no physical threat to him. the formality of the coven dynamic still matters.
and with louis in paris, you can clearly see in s2ep2 and the first half of s2ep3 that louis is attracted to armand and making extremely unsubtle advances- i want to highlight their riverside scene in particular where louis smiles at armand, steps forward to kiss him, and armand turns his head and says "if we were the only vampires in paris". his obligations as the coven master are his shield not to reciprocate (even though there's no "the coven master shall not fuck outside the coven" 6th vampire law and he's not exactly celibate now that they left the children of darkness)
but armand changes his mind about entering a relationship with louis literally as claudia's coven initiation is taking place and armand's weighing whether to kill louis during the ceremony- armand's coven obligations haven't disappeared, they're as present as ever, and louis is on even shakier ground with the coven than he was before. the main thing that's changed materially is that claudia is under armand's power now, and armand knows louis cares about claudia more than anything (also from s2ep3 when louis realizes armand knows the secret and when he thinks he's gonna die in the tunnels- "what does this mean for claudia??" "take care of claudia...don't give up on her. tell her she's beautiful. tell her that every morning")
and we see the reversal in their dynamic- while in the riverside scene louis was the one stepping forward to kiss armand, smiling and at ease, here louis is still and concerned, and armand steps forward to kiss him. louis fully knows armand holds both his and claudia's lives in his hands at this point, and it's only under those conditions that armand feels comfortable enough being with louis.
even the maitre/arun dynamic doesn't change the material power structure here- louis might be "maitre in the bedroom, maitre when it's hot or convenient" but it's only when claudia decides to leave paris with madeleine, leaving the coven and leaving armand's area of authority, that armand decides his relationship with louis is too unreliable and agrees to direct the trial.
and there's a possible argument- i'd def have to chew on this more- that part of the reason for armand's escalating control and gaslighting over the course of his relationship with louis (other than the primary reason of antiblackness and seeing louis more like an object than a person- let's not get it twisted) is that after the trial, with no formal power structures to secure louis' companionship, armand resorts to undermining louis' autonomy and selfhood. there's no coven and no claudia, but if louis literally thinks armand "protects (his) happiness", that armand knows what's best for him and he's a danger to himself and others without armand to care for him- and ofc as long as he keeps believing the lies around the trial- then he'd have no reason to ever leave.
a lot of people read a kinda inherent passivity and helplessness into armand's character as a response to his trauma, but i don't see that in him- even in the dubai interview he describes how easily he was able to wield his power over the paris coven, over lestat. it's only after louis and daniel figure out some of his gaslighting in s2ep5 that armand dials the "cowardly and passive and couldn't prevent anything" narrative up to 11. armand was victimized horrifically as a child, and part of his reaction to that seems to be a determination never to be in a position of disempowerment- or even a position of "equal" power- with his sexual partners again.
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The way some feminists here talk about pregnancy and parenthood is very indicative of their class and cultural background (and the bubble they live in), but they're almost never aware of that. They just think it's because they're extra queer or something
Like this shit. Women have not stopped having babies! Who are they? What challenges do they face right now? How will their children be exploited under these circumstances? It all gets brushed away just to go "ewwww I would never explode my pussy". Get your head out of your ass
Iâm sick of âopt-outâ toggles for automatically enabled generative AI features. Itâs past time to make âopt inâ the default setting for sens
In early July, Meta rolled out a new feature where anyone using its AI app could tag public Instagram accounts and generate images using their likenesses. Metaâs decision to turn the feature on by default, so that Instagram users had to actively opt out, was controversial.
Multiple Instagram creators posted viral videos explaining how to opt out and expressed frustration. After three days of outcry, Meta said in a statement that âthis feature missed the markâ and rolled back Instagram tagging for its AI chatbot.
âThey should have given you the option to opt in rather than opt out. But I am really getting tired of these companies pushing this AI stuff on us when we donât want to use it,â said creator Sam Sooin Yang in an Instagram video with over 3 million views. As public sentiment has continued to sour on generative AI, Silicon Valley companies have leaned into enabling these features and related settings by default.
The public reaction to Instagramâs âopt-outâ default for that AI feature was notable for its swiftness. âThat was a clear and immediate pushback,â says Thorin Klosowski, a senior security and privacy activist at the Electronic Frontier Foundation. âHonestly, it was great to see how quickly that happened.â Three days from lights on to lights off for a generative AI feature has to be some kind of record.
Recently, I turned off the âAsk Geminiâ bar in my Google Docs. It popped up at the bottom of my documents one morning and prompted me to use Google's chatbot as part of my regular writing workflow. Immediately, I started digging in the settings to disengage this feature. It's a ritual Iâve also performed an unfortunate number of times in recent years on other platforms, like Dropbox and LinkedIn.
Even beyond this feature, Meta is deeply entrenched in the privacy toggle game. âThis type of behavior is not unique for Meta,â says Ben Winters, director of AI and privacy at the Consumer Federation of America. âThey are stewards of the opt-out status quo that we find ourselves in, without adequate privacy regulation in the States.â Another Meta setting you might want to opt out of is Facebookâs âEnhanced Browsingâ roundup that tracks in-app visited websites on mobile.
âWe've built a wide array of settings and controls to help people make the privacy choices that are right for them and shape their experiences across our platforms,â Meta spokesperson Daniel Roberts wrote in an emailed statement to WIRED. âWe also conduct and fund extensive research to develop controls and data practices that are easy for people to use and understand, including through cross-industry organizations like TTC Labs."
It really matters when companies decide to opt users into a new AI tool or data training. âPeople tend to stick with whatever the default option is,â says Woodrow Hartzog, a professor at Boston Universityâs law school. âSo, if the default option is that you're enrolled, you're probably going to stay enrolled.â
Hartzog points to Article 25 of the European Unionâs privacy law, called the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR), as an example of better protections for users. âThe idea is that you have to build your systems to collect only what you need and nothing more,â he says. âAnd, if one of the options is more privacy protective than the other one, then by default, the more privacy protective option needs to be pre-selected.â
While some privacy experts have taken issue with how the GDPR works in practice, I find the idea of a more privacy-preserving approach as the default powerful. That would give me better peace of mind about my online interactions. No need to feel personally responsible for digging through esoteric menu screens, solving three limericks before I better protect my data.
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mike flanagan is anti-horror. grey brown netflix sludge, tenderness without intimacy. his little limp dick narratives are skin deep, no flesh no blood, no honest exploration of the works of art that he's being lauded for willfully misunderstanding. "from the heart and soul of mike flanagan" is oxymoronic and stupid and as trite as his FUCK NOTHING television shows and movies.
i like "social ergonomics" bc like yeah. furniture is usually made in a way that's like "we think this is probably what is needed for a human to immediately perform any given task" and often we are wrong about what types of furniture or spaces will have a detrimental long term impact on our bodies. ergonomics ideally looks at the evidence of the impact on bodies and then works backwards from there to come up with design.
social ergonomics should mean looking at social structures and analyzing the outcomes they have re: human welfare, and then taking that information back to the design board and redesigning things to hurt people less.
this should also be a zine. someday. but that would require me being able to sit upright
My partner is a game designer. He crafts experiences intended to elicit specific behaviors from thousands of strangers as his full time job. He often looks at social structures from this perspective in his free time and we talk about it a lot. and hoo boy are a lot of our systems not doing what they are officially meant to do.
if youâre genuinely interested in game design you should check out Radiator Yangâs game The Tearoom (NSFW, unless you work at the Sucking Off Dudeâs Guns factory).
I realize itâs weird to show up on someoneâs post to say âyou like game design. Have you played this game about giving head in a bathroom?â but itâs a really thoughtfully made game (see the artistâs statement, which is also NSFW) that is also about the effects of surveillance on communities. when, after about half an hour of play, I realized what mindset the game had deliberately cultivated in me, I had to turn off my computer and stare at the ceiling for ten minutes. and thatâs Game Design, to me
People have real issues understanding why the absence of romance and sexual desire is such a big deal. "No one bothers you over your sexual orientation! You're basically a straight person!" No wrong. The older you get the more your life is considered a failure for failing to find a life partner and get your 2.5 kids in.
Like people make fun of middle aged women for not getting married or being divorced or "always the bridesmaid never the bride" and all like "oh she's desperate! No one wants her! Old maid!' but they become straight up hostile and upset when you tell them you never want to date.
Being unpartnered after your mid twenties is just like "oh what's wrong with you" and "don't worry you'll find your guy" "aren't you afraid of being alone" "who will take care of you" "you're running out of time to have kids" and no matter what you are or aren't people straight up don't understand that you don't want them.
People tend to forget that queer is a word that means weird, and if you step out of heteronormativity you're weird in the eyes of the heteonormative society, wether you want different relationships or no relationships at all.
The core wound of this demographic is being rejected and being relentlessly asked to stop your bullshit relative to romance and sex, and to get back in the ranks. The aroace definitely qualify.
And since being rejected is obviously a veeeeery common trauma in the queer community, and people tend to reenact unhealed patterns, it's not rare to see queer people rejecting other queer people with shit like biphobia, being picky with who "qualify" as trans, dismissing aroaces etc...
Let's put rejection somewhere on a dusty shelf for a while and see how it feels. I'm sure it's freeing.
Ignoring misogyny: "Like people make fun of middle aged women for not getting married or being divorced or "always the bridesmaid never the bride" and all like "oh she's desperate! No one wants her! Old maid!' but they become straight up hostile and upset when you tell them you never want to date." *cough* Hugh Hefner *cough* Andrew Tate *cough* Clavicular *cough*
Ignoring homophobia, with some bonus patronizing therapyspeak (and is this really an accurate description of transphobia? is homophobia really best summed up as rejection?): "The core wound of this demographic is being rejected and being relentlessly asked to stop your bullshit relative to romance and sex, and to get back in the ranks. The aroace definitely qualify.And since being rejected is obviously a veeeeery common trauma in the queer community, and people tend to reenact unhealed patterns, it's not rare to see queer people rejecting other queer people with shit like biphobia, being picky with who "qualify" as trans, dismissing aroaces etc.."
Like, no, you ass, queer people who internalize homophobia and transphobia - or who engage in lateral hostility - are not "reenacting unhealed patterns." Nerds who go Nazi are not reacting to being bullied in school.
Would you ever think to say something like this about a form of bigotry you aren't trying to minimize? Do you talk about I don't know immigrants who support harsh anti-immigration laws like this? Do those people just need therapy? Or do you take that kind of bigotry seriously?
Something about the bastardization of the story time and time again proves that nobody in power really cares about the people who would resonate with Kingâs Carrie White. A girl so ugly and repulsive sheâs been removed from her own story. The societal need for women and girls to be constantly perceived as attractive is what fuels a fair amount of her torment in the book, but that person isnât even allowed to exist on the screen. We cannot empathize with her; it isnât allowed. Itâs fascinating to me.
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Turns out it was about womenâs sports all alongâif getting rid of women's sports counts, that is.
Wow whoever could've seen this coming?!? after spending years bashing trans people to "protect women's sports" they have now moved onto "actually we shouldn't even have most women's sports anyway because it's bad for their child bearing chances." and it's apparently discrimination against men's sports that we are required to offer equal sports for women. Whoever could have seen this coming?!?
Oh right everyone with a fucking brain who knew none of these fuckers ever cared about women sports and we're just using it to attack trans people!!
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