Stay Golden

a lot of women are socialized to the concept of “compromising” in their interpersonal relationships but what compromise means in that context is to be submissive, to let go of their concerns, limitations, comforts, desires, in order to appease the other person. in order to avoid a confrontation, in order to be seen as one that doesn’t cause conflict but one that dispells it. that isn’t what a true compromise even is, but even if it was, the discrepancy that men are never socialized to consider making compromises is something eerie. why do we set women up for enduring a lifetime of emotional abuse

I don’t know what a half hearted love is, a half hearted apology is, or what a half hearted attempt to do something is, I don’t know how to feel, I am either a complete mess or a complete fool in love.

Eventually you’ll end up where you need to be, with who you’re meant to be with, and doing what you should be doing.

don’t let anyone tell you that it’s a bad thing to feel things deeply. a full heart is a strong heart and being soft doesn’t make you weak. being soft and loving makes you radiant. you deserve all of the love in the world and so many good things.

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You cannot live alone on the fantasies you feed to your mind, eventually you have to touch your life for real, assess and analyze your habits, understand your character, try not to hate yourself for your character as it was shaped when you were very young by circumstances outside of you, and begin learning how to cope with your character, how to build habits that work for you, finish small projects, finish big projects, expose yourself to more uncomfortable situations, assess why you want to leave that friendship before you leave it, raise your anxiety levels on purpose, so that you can grow, raise your work load on purpose, so that you can grow, so that you can build resilience, so that your life expands, and can be experienced by you in full and in reality