pah-MEH-lah

You have to let people love you. You have to let people get to know you. You have to let people help you. Being so completely selfless that you try to erase yourself off the face of the planet and never ask for anything and reject everybody's offers of support makes you very hard to love! Unfortunately. Emptying yourself out of everything that makes you, you is not actually what your loved ones want from you, generally. They want to make you happy! They will be so so sad if you don't give them the chance. It's not all selfish. I promise.

anti-therapy speak. your reactions ARENT valid. you DO owe them an explanation. you ARE just being lazy. your ‘self-care’ talk IS just an excuse. your parent ISN’T a narcissist. you DO need to work harder. you ARE overreacting. you ARE being insane

it’s self care