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Help Carry Each Other’s Burdens To Improve Sexual Interest

Healthy Marriage, Healthy Sex Life with the one-another passages.  Here’s another idea to boost your sexual interest.

Are you are a movie lover, like I am?  I get emotionally connected when watching a movie and am swept along with the building tension of a plot line.  If it’s a well-crafted movie, I continue to ride the exciting wave of unfolding information until it bursts into resolution and…

Honestly, I’ve been anxious about the spread of the coronavirus (COVID-19).

Does this mean I do not trust God?  No, I trust him explicitly.  Trusting him explicitly does not mean that me or my loved ones are immune.  Trusting him means that he would give me strength and direction to endure if I or someone I love contracts the virus.  If I die, I know that I will finally be reunited with God. …

25 Ways to Serve Your Spouse and Grow Sexual Interest

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This is part of a series to improve your relationship outside of the bedroom which directly effects sexual interest in sexually engaging for a wife who has low desire in sexual intimacy (a.k.a. low libido).  Although I typically address the wife, this series is for both, husband and wife.  [/info_box]

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4 Ways to Build Acceptance and Sexual Interest

Healthy marriage, healthy sex life, with the one-another passages.

Sexual Interest Thrives when You Feel Accepted

When it became apparent our marriage was in trouble, sex was a problem.  We felt conflict and animosity the most around the bedroom.

However, looking back, I realize sex really wasn’t the problem.  The problem was we didn’t have the tools to understand and accept that we were…

Check Your Pride and Grow Sexual Interest

Healthy Marriage, Healthy Sex Life, with the one-another passages.  How to build a better sex life.

I overheard a conversation between two women about a week before Valentine’s Day.  The one asked the other, “Am I horrible that I feel if my hubby really loved me, he’d get flowers from the florist not the grocery store?”  Her friend affirmed her, “You’re not horrible. You want what you want.”

And…

Deeper Spiritual Intimacy, Richer Sexual Intimacy

Healthy marriage, healthy sex life with the one-another passages.

Do you allow your spouse to point you toward Christ when you get off course?

If you are not open to this kind of encouragement, may I suggest you do a little introspection?  Why are you not open to course correction toward Christ?  Is pride telling you that you don’t need anyone to remind you how to live?

Or is there something…

Friendship Builds Sexual Interest

Because some of us haven’t really seen a healthy marriage or we come into marriage with expectations that aren’t realistic, every Sunday throughout 2020, we will discuss what goes into creating a healthy marriage.   One of the most important aspects friendship.  Did you know friendship builds sexual interest?

In my newlywed mind, a husband and a friend were in two different categories.  There…

How Care and Concern Can Help Your Sex Life

Healthy marriage, healthy sex life with the one-another Bible passages.

Several years ago, I prepared for an endometrial ablation.  After talking with veterans of the procedure and reading the informational material from the doctor’s office, I knew the first 36 hours post-cauterization were probably going to be pretty rough with pain.  Dave would be my means of support and I was anxious about my…

3 Ways to Boost Sex Drive Through Exercise in Disguise

3 ways to boost sex drive through exercise in disguise (with affiliate links, gotta pay for those hosting fees!)

It’s no secret that exercise is one of the cheapest ways to boost your sex drive.  It has the added benefit of helping you get healthy, too!  For those of you like me, who hate to sweat, it is difficult to stay committed to an exercise routine.  However, if you love (or at least like)…

Healthy Marriage, Healthy Sex Life, Interdependence (Becoming We)

Healthy marriages, typically, have a healthy sex life.  What if you didn’t grow up in a house with a healthy marriage or it was only partly healthy?

Last week, I announced that each Sunday I will be posting about the ingredients that make up a healthy marriage with doable action items.  All of the posts will incorporate the “one another” passages in the Bible.

Today’s post is the first to dive…

My Husband’s Big Belly Turns Me Off. Am I Shallow?

I recently received this message.  It’s a good one to consider because obesity is a national problem and a problem that affects marriage in a real way.

[info_box type=”alert_box”]“Dear Bonny,

I struggle with my desire for sex with my husband because he has gained a significant amount of belly fat.  When we met, he didn’t have this problem.  Now, 12 years later, he has let himself go.  I told him…

Do You Know What a Healthy Marriage and Sex Life Looks Like?

  While my young adult kids were here over the Christmas holiday, they binge watched a BBC show called, The Great British Bake-Off.  You’ve probably seen it.

Having a sweet tooth the size of a baked Alaska, I nearly can’t be in the same room when it’s on.  It takes extreme amounts of self-control to watch someone create a beautiful treat and not go to the pantry and dig out my super-secret stash…

Now is the Perfect Time to Unlock Your Libido!

Now is the perfect time to unlock your libido!

Since this is only the first week of 2020, it doesn’t take a magic eight ball to predict you have heard A LOT about resolutions and goals in the past few days.  My expertise lies in helping ladies “of a certain resolution.”  The kind of resolution that works on finding or restoring your inner sex kitten.

If you struggle to find interest in sexual…

A New Sex Drive for a New Decade

At any point in the year, you can decide to make a change.  I, personally, like that there is a focus on change as the New Year rolls in.  There is a little added motivation and support when lots of people are talking about the same thing.  Band wagons aren’t all bad!

Since you are reading here, I’m assuming that low sex drive is an issue in your marriage and you desire a change in that…

Team Work Makes the Dream Work (and how the 59 “One Another” Bible Passages can help your sex life)

Disclaimers

This post is intended for marriages where both spouses are good-willed, even if sexless.  When in conflict, at times, your spouse may be grumpy and behave badly, just as you probably do.  At each of your cores, however, you are loving and have only good intentions, even if misguided once in awhile.  There is no emotional/verbal, physical, or spiritual abuse within your marriage.

Before You Get Through To Him About His Porn Use

Disclaimer:  This post is written with the assumption that you are married to a good-willed husband.  He may occasionally mess up and can be grumpy, but generally, he has a heart to do what is right and is in no way physically, verbally, or sexually abusive.  He listens to you and does not minimize your pain.  Although, when it comes to porn he may be defensive and that is what you and I are…

Learn to Increase your Physical Sexual Arousal and Desire

Struggle with desire?  Foreplay can help you fire up your physical sexual interest.

If you have listened to the podcast episode, Women’s Sexual Response, you will know that a woman’s interest in being sexual is not like a man’s.  You’re probably thinking, “I didn’t have to listen to a podcast to know that!”

Typically, a man feels randy and then lets his interest in sex be known.  If you’ve read,