bimarried lovers

It just means you want to suck a dick and swallow it’s load when it cums.  It means you should do that and be happy and fuck any labels, and fuck worrying about what to call yourself or what someone else might call you.  

Go suck a dick and be happy if you want.  Go eat a pussy and be happy if you want.  Go fuck a girl in the ass, or a guy in the ass, and be happy if you want.  

As long as anyone involved is on board and okay with it also… 

Safety

Its time again for another episode of Hotwifing 101. This week we are going to talk about the dreaded topic of safety and how to go about being safe. This, in regards to your physical safety from harm and your sexually safety as well.

I think it goes without saying..that we all want to be safe when we are playing. But how do you do that in a world full of weirdos, douchebags, and serial killers? Well, mostly it all comes down to common sense. I have seen or heard of couples and ladies who decide to get in this lifestyle and just go crazy….leaving themselves completely prone to really horrible possibilities. I even follow a tumblr lady (name witheld) that does this sort of thing and I’ve watched her videos and pics wondering how on earth she is doing this safely. It’s a turn on to watch but in reality there is no way I could do things the way that she does. It’s just to risky. So let’s discuss how things should be when it comes to safe Hotwifing!

My Stag and I have certain rules when seeking Bulls. One of them is a vetting process of interested men. Vetting is our way of learning about the potential Bull, to make sure he is sane, safe, kindhearted, patient, charming, and honest. I don’t pick random men off a website or bar and just fuck them. I know that the idea of picking random men is hot. It sure sounds hot but let’s be realistic for a change. If you just pick a random man at a bar or online…and you just invite him to your bedroom…You are leaving yourself wide open for a possible scary situation. You have no idea who that man is, where he is from, and if he is sane. Sure, it could go just fine, but…..what if it doesn’t? That risk is too heavy to take.

If you are new to this, go look at my Vetting episode to understand how to do this safely. Vetting a bull is imperative! Take your time as well. This is not something you should ever rush. If he is worthy, he will wait for you to be comfortable and safe. Your rules, NOT his!

There are many questions you should ask a potential Bull. Like… what kind of experience do you have? What is your background? And also learning about him as a person. His family, kids, job, what he likes to do for fun, likes and dislikes, relationship status, etc. All of these things help give you a bigger picture of who you are dealing with. Your Stag should be doing most of the talking during the vetting process. Because ultimately it is the Stag that he should fear. That is his job to keep you safe! His first and foremost job!when a potential Bull sees that you have a serious and strong Stag that he has to confront, he will be more likely to follow rules and boundaries. If he is one of the scary guys, then he will probably run away as fast as he can in order to avoid your Stags wrath in any situation that he may be planning.

Never, ever, meet a Bull alone on a first date! That’s our rule in this house. And usually, that rule applies on the 2nd and 3rd dates too. I only play alone when I know I am truly safe and comfortable with the Bull and my Stag approves of it. Let’s be real folks,…the world is a scary place sometimes. Don’t be the one who decides to be risky and ends up dead in a ditch somewhere in the country. That may sound extreme, but it happens all the time. Be smart!

Sexual safety is another thing. I don’t want to be Debbie Downer here but…diseases are rampant. Use common sense when playing. Condoms really should be used. I won’t lie to you and say that I always make my bulls wear them but I do vet the men about their sexual history. I make most Bulls wear condoms. The Bulls that don’t are the ones I know very very well and know their history. Don’t be afraid to ask for doctors records on the Bull in question. If these men are in the lifestyle, they already have done so many times already. A clear record from the doctor helps alot! It’s your body…so protect it and your peace of mind by staying safe. A Bull is not worthy if he doesn’t accept this!

On that note we end this week’s episode. I hope you’ve learned something today, and I’d love to answer your questions, so feel free to send them. Have a awesome day everyone!

This will be a weekly posting just for Hotwives, Stags, Bulls, and Swingers. Every Tuesday I will focus on your questions, comments, and statements of the Hotwife lifestyle. Feel free to direct all questions today through the submit feature of my Blog! Thank you and Happy Hotwifing! 💋    ~LillybGoddess

I get a lot of messages on here asking how I got in to the hotwife thing. I figured I should post the answer. Plus it’s easier than answering it individually so many times! Ha

We fantasized about having another guy join us early on in our relationship. My husband had been in a previous relationship where they had another guy join them for a few months building something quite fulfilling. I always enjoyed hearing his stories and experiences with this. I’d had some previous threesomes with another woman joining in but it never lived up to the hype. We used the fantasy of me with another guy often in our sex life. The challenge was taking it out of fantasy and in to reality. We are both in careers where privacy is important. Finding the right guy wasn’t as easy as we thought it would be.

We went to Desire resort a couple of times and had a great time. However, the quick hook up and jumping in to bed wasn’t going to be our style longer term. We had a few dates with guys. There was never really the right chemistry. Then I turned finding another guy over to my husband. I figured he could vet them and find someone that I would have a better chance to connect with. Truthfully this just didn’t work. After a few unfulfilling threesomes we decided a new approach would be better.

For this type of relationship to really work I needed to find someone I felt chemistry towards. I could go through the motions of a threesome but my husband and I both knew it wasn’t what we really wanted. We were out one morning early walking our dog and we had a great long chat about how we wanted to move forwards. I’ll never forget that chat. It was a turning point for us. There was real honesty about what we both wanted. In hindsight we should have had this discussion sooner because it made things so much better and our relationship that much stronger.

We realized this was something we both very much wanted. He craved seeing me really enjoy myself. The way I’m wired that meant I needed to build something longer term with other guy. Not a romantic relationship but still a friendship and true connection. It needed to be someone I had got to know over time before it became sexual. We also both agreed that the turn on wasn’t just me having sex with another guy but really letting him ejaculate inside of me. This required a safe longer term guy that we knew was healthy.

The first guy that we truly experienced a hotwife type relationship with ended up being my personal trainer. I’d worked with him for a few years. I had good chemistry with him. We knew each other well. We eded up having a very satisfying 6 months together. That really set the bar for future endeavours.

There are so many emotions around this both good and challenging. We had a number of threesomes but they didn’t carry with them the same emotions as when I first slept with my trainer. That was our first truly fulfilling experience in this lifestyle. I think in some way because there was so much anticipation and build up. I remember feeling a mix of nervousness and guilt mixed with intense desire when I was getting dressed for my first date with him. I know my husband felt the same watching me get ready. There was a huge mix of feelings when he kissed and hugged me goodbye when I left. Overwhelming the jealousy was the huge primal desire to have this other man he knew I really wanted fill me with his cum.

When I got to his house I found I quickly was engaged in our connection and I must admit I wasn’t thinking as much about my husband. We had amazingly satisfying sex. We lost track of time and I felt this huge sense of guilt. It overtook the feelings of lust and satisfaction. I remember being so nervous coming home thinking I’d hurt the man I really love. I will never forget the look on my husbands face when I came in to our bedroom to reconnect. It wasn’t sadness or hurt but intense pleasure. This will sound strange but he had this look of pride that I had really done this for us both. He was more turned on that I think he’d ever been. There wasn’t some decrease in love but this huge boost in how me felt together.

What a filthy hotwife! Sheer perfection