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Gratitude  Ladies thank you for sharing your stories,without them we wouldn't know the men that prey on our hearts and communities. So turns out,men are angry that we learn from your mistakes so we wont accept the BS men tell us. I reckon they might be threatened by us coming together and saying NO to the BS they call loving us. We aren’t fragile, so keep writing so I can leave before I become another victim. Keep writing so I never have to accept such a low standard of having a man who beats me down. Thank you for writing so that I do not accept his insecurity as a weakness in me. -Reabetswe

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I found myself this past week being a part of the Silent Protest at the University of the Witwatersrand, a good cause that raises awareness of the silence most victims go through and gives encouragement about the realities sexual violence. I have to admit it was very hard getting taped and going the whole day in silence, it was emotionally draining and frustrating. as part of the march there are guest speakers and one one the speakers got talking about how we should not make sex some sort of secret as it is around us and we should express our sexual prowess and not feel embarrassed by it. This got me thinking that at the very thought of sex I get very uncomfortable but this is my reality. I realize that my reality even though I would like to have a society that TALKS and expresses their needs in terms of how they are to had, or want to give out sex I know that because society mold us in such a way that even in our closed bedroom doors we don't feel comfortable to explore ways of pleasuring others and ourselves. I am aware that we may read on this subject and hear about it bu my worry is when will YOU go out and tell your partner “You ain’t hitting it right,I prefer...”

I read fifty shades of grey, darker and freed and I thought that as it continued we would find a point where Anastasia Steele finds her backbone and dumps Christian but I was hugely disappointed that a woman would allow to be dated by a broken man like that. Who the first time he saw you he thought "you resemble my junkie dead mom so lets sleep together." It got me thinking how psycho he must be or just downright not fully healed. so here I was sitting in a movie theater near me and I watched the whole thing and I was still disappointed in how the Director lacked something, I am sure movie people would know the right way. It lacked to show how empowered but how women depend on these rich;damaged men. Ana is a  disgrace to what women really represent in this modern age. we can eat and find men and never be so 'submissive with our all'. The fact that she was a virgin made me laugh.... I have definitely read better in how BDSM and that book and movie did noyhing to really show how this world really works... hence she was reluctant to sign the contract, so I thought.