Woof.

Obviously some folks will put significance on their own, personal experiences, or consider it to be like the highest form of intimacy/romance/etc, but also some folks think cooking together is the height of intimacy/romance/connection, some people put that insane amount of significance onto Hollidays or wacky traditions.

Nobody should be pressured to have/not have sex, nobody should be expected to put significant meaning on sex, the only sex folks should be worried about is their own (if they choose to have it) and if someone’s in a legitimate dangerous situation.

Famously I don't like impact play. I'm a domestic violence survivor and witness, I cannot perceive or justify laying more than a teasing hand on my partner or considering it fun or pleasurable or sexual. I am well aware that people are able to practice it safely. It's still not for me, and imagining doing so or having it done to me is enough to make me sick.

But like. I don't go off about people who sexually enjoy spanking being secret abusers and killers. I just block the content so I don't have to see it.

And whenever I say stuff like this I get the "but what about when it's not correctly tagged" and I say- I've had that happen too. I'm an intersex trans man, I've been forcibly feminized and held down to be stuffed in a dress and bra and makeup and heels, I've been given estrogen against my will for years, I was made to be a girl and punished every time I said I was a boy.

There's a user who frequently did not tag her posts that enjoys that type of content. Because I don't and her content kept appearing where I could see it, I also blocked her directly. I stopped seeing the posts I didn't want to see.

Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex by Pat Califia