My space

I mean listen, I’m in my 30s. These labels don’t mean a lot to me anymore. Like, literally everything is normal. Everything is fine so long as nobody’s feelings are being hurt. Don’t worry about some label that used to be useful maybe not being useful anymore. Thank it for its service and let it retire. Maybe one day it will be useful again. That doesn’t change anything about you, because you are, and always have been, a complex, multifaceted, constantly changing kaleidoscope of emotional and sexual needs, and “asexual” is just a word that helped you make sense of it for a while.

Like, y’all, give yourselves a break. Sex is complicated. Some people are straight their whole lives, and then they meet one person who changes everything. Some people are one thing for a while, then they’re another thing, then they go back to being the first thing. Some people stay one thing forever. Some people are really into something in their 20s that grosses them out to even think about for the rest of their lives. All if it’s normal.

The words you put on your orientation are not elementally a part of you. They are tools, and as tools they should serve a function. That function can be to help you understand and categorize your own experiences and desires. It can be to help you find a community. It can be to help you get laid. It can just be to set social expectations. These words can be a revelation when you first apply them to yourself: they can be life-saving. But you are not beholden to them. 

Are you looking for some great Gay/Queer YA books?! Well I have a list for you!  if you need help picking out a book my ask box is always open drop me a line! or just stop by to tell me what you thought of one of the books! I always want to know! 

Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli

Social Skills by Sara Alva

Silent by Sara Alva

One Man Guy by Michael Barakiva

Hold My Hand by Michael Barakiva

Wonders of the Invisible World by Christopher Barzak

Alan Cole Is Not a Coward by Eric Bell

Alan Cole Doesn’t Dance by Eric Bell

Queeroes by Steven Bereznai

The Darkest Part of the Forest by Holly Black

Ziggy, Stardust and Me by James Brandon

Felix Yz by Lisa Bunker

Exit Plans for Teenage Freaks by 'Nathan Burgoine

Last Bus to Everland by Sophie Cameron

The House of Impossible Beauties by Joseph Cassara

Peter Darling by Austin Chant

Gives Light by Rose Christo

Stranger Than Fanfiction by Chris Colfer

Carry the Ocean by Heidi Cullinan

The Love Interest by Cale Dietrich

There Goes Sunday School by Alexander C. Eberhart

Lock & West by Alexander C. Eberhart

The Screwed Up Life of Charlie the Second by Drew Ferguson

Love & Other Curses by Michael Thomas Ford

Only Mostly Devastated by Sophie Gonzales

Tales from Foster High by John Goode

How Not to Ask a Boy to Prom by S.J. Goslee

Will Grayson, Will Grayson by John Green & David Levithan

Half Bad by Sally Green

Half Wild by Sally Green

Half Lost by Sally Green

Heartbreak Boys by Simon James Green

Geography Club by Brent Hartinger

We Contain Multitudes by Sarah Henstra

Middle School’s a Drag, You Better Werk by Greg Howard

Social Intercourse by Greg Howard

Totally Joe by James Howe 

After School Activities by Dirk Hunter 

At the Edge of the Universe by Shaun David Hutchinson

The Past and Other Things That Should Stay Buried by Shaun David Hutchinson

We Are the Ants by Shaun David Hutchinson

The Five Stages of Andrew Brawley by Shaun David Hutchinson

The Boy Who Couldn’t Fly Straight by Jeff Jacobson

Haffling by Caleb James

The Red Sheet by Mia Kerick

The Lightning-Struck Heart by T.J. Klune

A Destiny of Dragons by T.J. Klune

The Consumption of Magic by T.J. Klune

A Wish Upon the Stars by T.J. Klune

The Extraordinaries by T.J. Klune

Openly Straight by Bill Konigsberg

Autoboyography by Christina Lauren

The Gentleman’s Guide to Vice and Virtue by Mackenzi Lee

Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan

Every Day by David Levithan

Boy Meets Boy by David Levithan

How to Repair a Mechanical Heart by J.C. Lillis

When Ryan Came Back by Devon McCormack

Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston

Vivaldi in the Dark by Matthew J. Metzger

Life as a Teenage Vampire by Amanda Meuwissen

The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller

The Art of Starving by Sam J. Miller

Hero by Perry Moore

Marco Impossible by Hannah Moskowitz

Like a Love Story by Abdi Nazemian

I’ll Give You the Sun by Jandy Nelson

More Than This by Patrick Ness

Earth to Charlie by Justin Olson

Play Me, I’m Yours by Madison Parker

Here’s to You, Zeb Pike by Johanna Parkhurst

Junior Hero Blues by J.K. Pendragon

When Everything Feels Like the Movies by Raziel Reid

Jack of Hearts by Lev A.C. Rosen

Camp by Lev A.C. Rosen

Carry On by Rainbow Rowell

Wayward Son by Rainbow Rowell

My Awesome/Awful Popularity Plan by Seth Rudetsky

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz

Rainbow Boys by Alex Sanchez

Rainbow High by Alex Sanchez

Rainbow Road by Alex Sanchez

So Hard to Say by Alex Sanchez

They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera

History Is All You Left Me by Adam Silvera

More Happy Than Not by Adam Silvera

Grasshopper Jungle by Andrew Smith

Freak Show by James St. James

Ray of Sunlight by Brynn Stein

Imaginary by Jamie Sullivan

(In)visible by Anyta Sunday

The Dangerous Art of Blending In by Angelo Surmelis

366 Days by Kiyoshi Tanaka

Cemetery Boys by Aiden Thomas

Wild and Crooked by Leah Thomas

Because You’ll Never Meet Me by Leah Thomas

Fan Art by Sarah Tregay

Suicide Watch by Kelley York

Special thanks to Trace for the header and subheads

the Header is Red White & Royal Blue and Carry On, Red is Jack of Hearts, Orange is Alan Cole is Not a Coward, Yellow is Heartbreak Boys, Green is The Lightening Struck-Heart, Blue is Boy Meets Boy, and Purple is Cemetery Boys

“A modo mio avrei bisogno di carezze anch’io”

Ferrara,2019

Here’s my updated and great gay books for you all to read, if you need help picking one, send me a message and I’ll help you pick one out

Earth to Charlie

Boy Meets Boy

Jack of Hearts

Openly Straight

One Man Guy

Hold My Hand

Love & Other Curses

The House of Impossible Beauties

Totally Joe

Hero

Freak Show

So Hard to Say

We Contain Multitudes

Gives Light

Alan Cole Is Not a Coward

Alan Cole Doesn’t Dance

How to Repair a Mechanical Heart

Silent

Tales from Foster High

The Lightning-Struck Heart

A Destiny of Dragons

The Consumption of Magic

A Wish Upon the Stars

The Boy Who Couldn’t Fly Straight

The Boy Who Couldn’t Fly Home

The Dangerous Art of Blending In

Social Intercourse

Play Me, I’m Yours

Peter Darling

More Than This

The Five Stages of Andrew Brawley

Life as a Teenage Vampire

Red, White & Royal Blue

Felix Yz

Autoboyography

Junior Hero Blues

They Both Die at the End

The Gentleman’s Guide to Vice and Virtue

Wild and Crooked

Stranger Than Fanfiction

History Is All You Left Me

366 Days

The Red Sheet

When Everything Feels Like the Movies

Half Bad

Half Wild

Half Lost

Here’s to You, Zeb Pike

When Ryan Came Back

Like a Love Story

Because You’ll Never Meet Me

Wonders of the Invisible World

Haffling

The Screwed Up Life of Charlie the Second

I’ll Give You the Sun

Carry On

Suicide Watch

Ray of Sunlight

More Happy Than Not

Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda

(In)visible

After School Activities

Middle School’s a Drag, You Better Werk

Two Boys Kissing

Rainbow Boys

There Goes Sunday School

The Past and Other Things That Should Stay Buried

The Darkest Part of the Forest

We Are the Ants

Marco Impossible

Fan Art

My Awesome/Awful Popularity Plan

Grasshopper Jungle

Last Bus to Everland

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe

Social Skills

At the Edge of the Universe

The Art of Starving

The Song of Achilles

The Love Interest

Carry the Ocean

How Not to Ask a Boy to Prom

Che gli altri pretendano di sapere cosa è più giusto per te

La tua vita è SOLO TUA

E solo tu puoi sapere cosa ti fa bene o male.

Non lasciarti influenzare da nessuno (lo so che lo fai e anche molto spesso

Puoi aggiustare ogni cosa

Quando vuoi

Non è mai troppo tardi

Ricordalo sempre.

Lui sospirò

“Come posso risponderti? Lei era matta”

Sì passò la mano tra i capelli

“Dio se era tutta matta.

Ogni giorno era una donna diversa

Una volta intraprendente, l’altra impacciata.

Una volta esuberante, l’altra timida.

Insicura e decisa.

Dolce e arrogante.

Era mille donne lei, ma il profumo era sempre lo stesso

Inconfondible

Era quella la mia unica certezza.

Mi sorrideva sapeva di fregarmi con quel sorriso

Quando sorrideva io non capivo più nulla

Non sapevo più parlare ne pensare

Niente, zero

C’era all’improvviso solo lei

Era matta, tutta matta

A volte piangeva

Dicono che in quel caso le donne vogliono solo un abbraccio

Lei no

Lei si innervosiva

Non so dove si trova adesso ma scommetto che è ancora alla ricerca di sogni

Era matta tutta matta

Ma l’ ho amata da impazzire.”