is that person actually "demanding emotional labour" from you or did you follow one shitty therapist on twitter
while we're at it did that person actually "violate a boundary" or have you been reading /r/relationships again
I'm not just speaking as someone who was abused by a partner who loved doing their emotional manipulation through therapy-speak. I genuinely think this is a huge societal problem and it's how we've ended up with, eg, terfs inventing the clearly batshit idea that you can apply a "consent" framework to who gets to exist around you in public spaces and making it a cornerstone of their fascist bullshit
agree with all of this execpt for the hypocritically manipulative use of language at the end.
things like locker rooms, crises shelters, bathrooms, specific support groups etc are both public and private spaces. they are public for the community members, but private for sex.
if you dont know why certain things are split up by sex, i highly highly encourage you to learn about male pattern violence, not just the physical kind, but also flashing, voeyuring, harassing, etc.
feminists didnt suddenly invent sex specifc safe spaces randomly, its based on the reality of female victimization by males.
and of course, disclaimer for the inevitable MRA response “but-but- not all males do those things!!” correct. #NotAllMen. you get a medal 🏅 congrats. doesnt erase the pattern, statistics, or reality of commonplace of male violence against women. yes! even those who with they werent men and even those who wish they weren’t women!
