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it’s such a basic part of the reality of disabled people as a whole but it’s STILL so hard to get ppl to understand that some people will simply die without 24/7 care. their care is not for comfort, it’s not for fun, it’s literally a matter of life and death. “if their care was taken away i’m sure they’d learn to suck it up like the rest of us!” – something ive heard time and time again. no they wouldn’t, they would die. they HAVE died. they continue to die as cuts are made to welfare and health. why is this so impossible for people to grasp.

just saw someone say “i didn’t go on T until i was 20” like that’s not a completely normal age to transition. not everyone knows who they are in their adolescence and sometimes it takes being completely separated from the harmful rhetoric you grew up in to realize who you want to be and actually start hormones. and whether that’s in your 20’s or your 50’s that’s a wonderful thing. there is no such thing as “starting late” and i hate that it’s even a concept.

so many people ive known have pushed themselves to burnout trying to deny their disabled reality, skipping accommodations, skipping rests etc. and the world convinces them that the solution to their burnout is to push even harder. it’s a huge tragedy. i know social pressures make it tough but i want more disabled people to make things easier for themselves where possible, to opt out of things that harm them when possible, to quit while they’re ahead. be that person today! protect yourself where you can! take micro breaks while doing your hobby. get that shower chair. sit to brush your teeth. lie down in the middle of the day, even if only for 5 mins. these things add up and it’s so worth it.

happy disability pride month! ACCOMMODATE YOURSELF TODAY!

unfortunate truth of reality is that oftentimes 15 year olds will say/do/believe some stupid bullshit because they are 15 but telling them that they believe that because they are 15 is probably the most counterproductive thing in the entire universe

i remember being 15 and wanting literally nothing more than to be taken seriously and listened to and every thought and feeling i had was dismissed because i was a hormonal teenager. i was well aware at that point that a lot of the things i felt were probably because i was a kid, but that didnt make any of it less real, and being dismissed because of my age 1. did not help 2. did not make me feel better 3. made me angry at and untrustworthy of adults because they refused to listen to me. teenagers are people. kids are people. one of the only major things separating them from adults are experience and wisdom. they have like. you know. interiority

like in YOUR mind you may think youre being helpful by going 'well you're a kid, its not really a big deal, youre okay, youll get over it' but that does not register as "helpful affirmation that everything will turn out fine and the only reason im upset is because of something out of my control so its better to just try and come to terms with it" it registers as 'adult dismissing my real tangible problems and sadness and anger because of my age and inadvertently calling me stupid'

maybe im just a hater and i never really engage with true crime content outside of the few times i was forced to in high school but whenever people are like "yeah its just fascinating.... to hear how killers think.... its so interesting to know their thought processes..." and well. 99% of the time its "they realized they had the chance to hurt somebody and took it" and they werent some misunderstood genius it was 1. police incompetence & people not caring about the victims and 2. most serial killers are white guys. and white guys can get away with a hell of a lot

like all of my ethical problems with true crime aside its just not that interesting is it. these are not compellingly written movie villains with complex personalities and genius plans and thrilling characterization. theyre just people who decided to hurt other people usually for the reason of "because i wanted something from them" or "because i could get away with it". i love horror movies i love violence in fiction. but in real life this shit is always just devastating and not nearly as quirky or fun as podcasters wanna make it out to be. i dont care about John Murder's twisted psychology and the fascinating reasons why he killed a bunch of women. i think he did it because he didnt like women and he could get away with it because we live in a society that doesnt care about women. true crime is just completely uninteresting to me

the enemy drank water today. did you?

i drank water three days ago. im several steps ahead of the enemy. this is what it takes to win

idk i would personally rather give up access to certain products seasonally or locally than have people enslaved to give me the ability to have any product any place any time. i think i can go without tomatoes in january.

i truly do think that most people if confronted with it and pressed on it would agree. but it's comfortable to gain privileges from someone else's suffering, especially if you don't have to see that suffering directly.

I fundamentally do not believe it’s possible for any person to track calories in a healthy and non-disordered way. I just don’t believe in that. Idc how many people claim they’re the exception like I actually especially don’t believe anyone who says that. “I need to do it” ohhhh okay. So looks like you’re already headed down the wrong path champ

Many people think the problem with cultural appropriation is inauthenticity (vague, nebulous) rather than marginalized people functionally getting robbed

The discourse afaik started with the very real and very insidious practice of white producers functionally dominating Black music for decades, paying Black artists peanuts or nothing & pushing for (better-paid, more mainstream-palatable) white artists playing in Black styles. In the sphere I'm most personally familiar with, it looks like most indigenous artforms that white people encounter in their lives being produced by and for settlers, and the profits largely being aggregated to settlers while traditional ndn artists struggle. I think using the terminology and losing sight of the economic damage - especially in favor of more nebulous frames like cultural authenticity - is doing real harm by dilution and contributing to the very thing it purports to fight