I feel the phrase “Aro/Ace people can still date/have sex” has just morphed into a new version of “you just haven’t found the right person yet.”
Yes we can. But it’s our call if we do. And it’s certainly not gonna be with anyone who tries to use the fluidity of our experiences as a clap back to break firmly set boundaries.
And that fluidity doesn’t make sexual/romantic repulsion that some of us experience any less true or valid.
I’ve never had sex and I never will. The sheer concept of it viscerally disgusts me.
I’ve never experienced any form of sexual attraction and know at this point i likely never will. I have zero framework for it when people talk about it. It confuses me.
“Little to no romantic/sexual attraction” has a no in it for a reason. Because aro/ace people who don’t experience sexual/romantic attraction at all regardless of circumstance are in fact real.
Other ace people have different experiences. They’re allowed to. Their experiences aren’t mine or anyone else’s to make. Nor are mine theirs.
Sexualities are complicated and often fluid sure. But one thing they’re not is negotiable.
Ace peoples boundaries are ours to make and yours to respect. No ifs or buts. You don’t get a say in it.
