New Tomorrows

"The payoff for this autonomy is the anxiety that comes with having to self-regulate, that is, to devise one's own standards and rules, and to interact romantically with other people who are also making up their own rules. Our grandparents had far more constraints but a lot more clarity: it is scary to be grasping for love in the dark. No wonder, then, that we might make up monsters to inhabit it. "Narcissist," "lovebombing," "toxic." A whole new lexicon to warn us of bad people. I do not mean to suggest for a moment that there aren't dangerous people out there, people who are viciously and intentionally cruel to their intimate partners. I have experienced such abuse firsthand. What I'm referring to here, though, is not control, domination or violence but confusion and hurt feelings: a concept creep, in which we abandon everyday criticism of those who have hurt us--such as selfishness, cowardice, irresponsibility--and in their place substitute premeditation and inhumanity. In this way, the central riddle of dating, namely that people we meet often don't turn out to be who they seem or who we hoped them to be, becomes easy to solve. Our problems on the apps are all black and white: stemming from either a failure of self-love on our own part or a narcissistic excess of it on theirs." --Shon Faye, Love In Exile

Evidently there's Agamemnon & reader slash on account of the Nolan adaptation. Taking this as a sign that there's a lot more murder in people's hearts than I had initially considered.

First emergency evacuation went silly well.

Absolutely love how many other people were waiting for today.