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Let’s not waste any time today, ladies. You want to know how to ask a man for money/gifts/stuff, so allow me to tell you how.

💰 The Worst Thing a Man Can Say is No.

Ya’ll gotta get over your stage fright and start asking these damn men for what you want. These men aren’t coy about asking you for sex on the first date, so why are you acting all shy about asking for money/gifts? Don’t lie to yourselves ladies, we all want a high value and established man for the security and what he can provide. If that didn’t matter to us, we would choose dusties and do 50/50.

Besides, what’s the worst a man can say? No?

And if he does say no, then GOOD. Now you know he isn’t the right man for you! Time is money ladies, but it applies both ways: if he’s not giving you money/providing for you, then he’s wasting your time. If you’re wasting time and not asking for money, the you’re wasting both time and money.

💰  Timing Is Everything.

I don’t know why you ladies think a man is going to fork over $5,000 on the first date. Unless you and this man have some sort of sugaring dynamic or an arrangement prior to the first date, it’s not happening. Be realistic ladies.

💰 Condition Him From the Start.

Never leave a date empty handed.  Whether it’s flowers, gifts, or money, a man must approach a goddess with an offering. If a man comes empty handed, don’t be shy. Comment on the fact that he’s empty handed!

💰 High Effort Dates ONLY.

We don’t do coffee dates here, ladies. We don’t do bars, either. We don’t grab drinks. Not on this blog. If a man suggests a low effort date, counter-suggest with a high effort one. Set this expectation from Date 1. It’s difficult to set the bar high if you start it off low.

💰 Shopping Dates.

The easiest way to start getting gifts from a man is by suggesting a date at an upscale mall. Upscale malls typically have restaurants inside that you can first grab a meal there, before moving onto the stores.

When suggesting this date, say something along the lines of: “I’ve been needing new dresses to wear out… should we grab lunch at ____ and then go shopping afterwards? What do you think? I’m sure you have amazing taste and will choose some great dresses.”

I sometimes also like to send a picture of something I want (like a Chanel purse), and hint that I’ve been wanting it for a while. This typically works well.

💰 Asking for Money.

Gifts are nice, but the goal is to provided for in all ways. There’s a few ways you can do this:

- Start off by becoming distant, and texting less. Do this leading up to your next day. At the date date, bring up that feeling ‘uncertain’ (but keep it vague about what the uncertainty is about, while hinting that the uncertainty is regarding your relationship). Then bring up how feeling secure in a relationship is really important to you. When he asks what he can do to make you feel more secure, say something like: “I really enjoy feeling secure and provided for by a man. It really helps me know he cares and wants me to be taken care of.”

- Before becoming intimate with him, outline to him your expectations.  “I really feel a strong connection with you and want to deepen that connection, but it’s really important for me to be exclusive and be taken care of by a man before I can feel comfortable with being intimate.” If he asks you what ‘taken care of’ means, say support with bills, help with tuition, and emotional security.

- Ask for support/investment in something. If you have business dreams or want to go to school, ask him for help! Even if you don’t want either of those things, lie and say you want to take a class to develop your skills in an area. Make sure to double the expense (meaning: if tuition is $5,000, tell him its $10,000). “Honey, I really want to start my own beauty business this year. Do you think you could help me? It’s been my dream forever, and I already laid out a financial plan of how much I would need.”

- Ask for financial support to be able to spend more time with him. To do this, start being “busy” with work/school/life, and be more distant. Then let him know that his support would allow you more time to be with him, and relieve stress. Be sure to double your expenses. “I really wish we could spend more time together, and be able to further our connection…but I’m so stressed with paying rent, that I’ve had to work overtime. Do you think you could help me, honey? I really want us to be able to spend more time together.”

- Just ask. Seriously. No scenario needed, just ask. 

“Honey, I could really use some help with some bills and just self maintenance because I love looking and feeling beautiful when we go out on dates. Do you think you could help me out? I would appreciate it sooo much!”

💰 Surgeries.

Getting cosmetic procedures is SO easy because men automatically think of how it’ll benefit them. Text him a picture of the procedure you want (before & afters), along with the pricing and tell him how much more confident and sexy you’ll feel once you get it done.

💰 Houses & Cars

- Always tell men you have roommates, this way, when asking for a house/condo/apartment, you can use your roommates as an excuse why you’re moving out and wanting to live alone. Also, suggest to him that having your own place will allow for more privacy between the two of you.

- Let him know you can’t afford a place nearby and you may have to move to a different state. If he likes you enough, he’ll want to prevent that, or at least offer to help you with rent.

- When asking for a car, tell him how you’ve been experiencing car troubles and not feeling comfortable driving. Explain that you’ve been needing a more reliable and safer car. Start attending less dates due to ‘transportation issues’.

*Note, make sure these items are fully paid off and IN YOUR NAME*

💰 Damsel in Distress. 

Ugh, I hate this tactic because it’s not sustainable, but I’ll cover it anyways. This is pretty simple; come up with a distressing scenario and ask if he can help you in any way. Pretty straight forward, but I do not recommend this as your main tactic. 

Example: “I’m feeling so stressed out. My tuition for this semester is due in 2 weeks and I don’t have the full amount. I don’t know what to do, if I don’t pay, I can’t go to school this semester.”

Hope this helps ladies! I may do a Part 2 to offer more advice on this topic <3

To be clear, every single one of you are valuable and deserving of all the love happiness and joy in the world. Understanding this means all you need to do is embrace your worth and carry yourself in a way that will attract all of the things you deserve.

Becoming a high value woman is the best thing you can do for yourself and your goals. Being high value doesn’t revolve simply around looks. However remember that being attractive is about feeling attractive on the inside and your health, physical, mental and emotional contributes a lot to this. Once you are fully aware of your value you will only surround yourself with those who value them in return. You are respectful but assertive. Loving, but have boundaries and exude femininity, class and a high self esteem. A high value woman isn’t waiting for a man. She might want one, but she doesn’t need one. She is busy chasing her goals. This is incredibly attractive to men who by default are hunters. 

1. She has goals Having goals is incredibly important. Not only do they keep you focused but in the process of pursuing them you’re also evolving into the woman you have always wanted to be. By working on your passions you end up leveling up, mentally, physically emotionally and financially. All of these things are by products of following your dreams. 

2. She has high standards When you have standards, you know what to accept out of not only your life but other people. You also know your limits and are particular about who you let into your personal circle. You are not a “Crowd” type of person so you’re cautious about the company you keep. You also want people you can grow with and in turn help you grow as well. She’s not into toxic, negative situations or people. 

3. She takes care of her appearance When you feel good you look good and vice versa right. Taking pride of how you look, making sure you look clean and polished at all times. Doesn’t matter what you’re doing. People address you how you show them you want to be addressed. People treat you better when you look presentable vs when you go out looking like a slob. Taking care of yourself sends a message that you have a high ROI. in fact, the more you do for yourself as a woman, the more a man will respect and do for you.

4. She is socially skilled Knowing your surroundings and how to interact in different settings is important. Social skills are important for everyone. Knowing how to carry your weight in conversations regarding art, music, current events, business etc shows people that you are educated. You have no problem speaking your mind but you do so with class and elegance. You don’t do petty arguments because you’re above them and if you don’t like the conversation you respectfully excuse yourself. 

5. She is always learning Intelligence is one of your best traits. There is always something new you can learn. The more value you can provide, the more valuable you appear to others. 

6. She takes care of her health Health is wealth. Vitamins, skincare routines, exercise and eating right will all make you feel good. 

7. She knows how to manage her finances She knows how to manage her money, how to make money, and knows that investing and saving are important.

8. She embraces her vulnerability A high value woman knows that being soft, while perceived to others as a weakness is actually strength. Being vulnerable means you are emotionally brave so she allows herself to be transparent and authentic. She has no interest in competing with men, but instead embraces her femininity and confidence to express herself on a normal, non dramatic manner. 

9. She is compassionate She displays kindness to everyone she crosses paths with. From friends, to a waiter. Memorable beauty comes from how you treat others so your beauty radiates from within. She cares about people and it comes naturally to her. She cares about the people in her life and is very supportive of others.

10. She is passionate She lives her life in alignment with her goals and values and doesn’t accept any less. She lives a life of abundance because knows that abundance chases her and she attracts it. She loves who she is and what she does unapologetically. She takes full responsibility for herself and the life she wants.