nadhilah akj

@importantcatpics

Normalize seeing someone's lack of effort as their lack of interest in you regardless of what they tell you. Giving you all of the right words, but none of the right actions is called manipulation. If a person wants to be with you, they prove it. Period.

Stop letting people consume you. they didn’t call? go to sleep. they didn’t message you? put your phone down and have a better day. they left you on read? delete the conversation. they didn’t make an effort? match their energy. never let your happiness depend on anyone

Ameen , Ameen , Ameen 🤲🏼

nobody too busy, you just ain't a priority anymore

don’t get too attached, people always leave.

It's okay if you don't feel hopeful about the future right now. If hope is out of reach, try curiosity instead.

holding yourself accountable and tearing yourself down are two different things

how to do it (asking seriously)

be aware of what you’ve done wrong. forgive yourself and learn from it rather than beating yourself up over it and thinking it’s just a part of you that can’t be changed. know that you can’t go back and undo it but also that in the future you can do better and not repeat the same regret. self hatred stemming from regret is hard to control, but it can be managed with patience and practice.

If you wouldn't wish it on your worst enemy don't wish it on yourself.

sometimes it feels like talking to anyone will be a bother, like it’s easier to just not saying anything until it starts killing me. but that’s damaging and self destructive and i know that there are people in my life who would want me to confide in them rather than suffer alone. so this is a reminder to myself and anyone who needs it.