Mymy

Essek and Caleb at Jester and Fjord's wedding party, k-i-s-s-i-n-g

oops all occtis!! + bonus soldiers bc i'm sad we didn't get outfits for them

ever since I joined the game in 2024, I waited for him.

I waited an entire year, and after he officially launched, I pulled for all of his cards. my collection has always been 100%.

after today, it's officially over.

I'll always love Caleb, the story, the other LIs, the VAs, the writers, artists and developers.

but this is so fucking disrespectful. after an entire month of silence, after everything we've done and fought for, they just throw us a heavily censored card that looks like AI????

Caleb is always thrown under the bus, he's always the guinea pig, the odd one out so they can experiment and see how further they can push the players, and honestly? story-wise, I liked that. I liked he was different, but now it just looks like a 'fuck you' in every way (gameplay, story, everything else).

not even gonna mention Valko because this whole thing is so stupid. a gaming company should have more marketing-intelligence, right? I work with software development and as small as our company is, we wouldn't even dream of being so tone-deaf to our customers. let alone a company that heavily relies on us.

love and deepspace was great for two whole years. a pioneer, a visionary. now it's just disappointment for everyone involved.

my Caleb (and all the other boys, INCLUDING VALKO) will always live on fanworks—fanfics, fanarts, cosplays, etc.

What do I think about this? It’s misogynistic and objectifying the one person that’s meant to be us in the story. Bear in mind she is the protagonist! If you aren’t going to show her, don’t show her at all, and don’t start showing her only when they’re kissing because not only are they sending a message that MC isn’t that important, but they are also showing that MC is only worth showing if she’s with a love interest. How pathetic is that?

I’m sorry I just need to rant about the small things before I start raging about the Valko situation.

we are actively seeing the consequences of catering to toxic fans: mc's face censored, numbers censored, TEXT censored. everything censored that could potentially trigger antis into making another move.

we are actively seeing that infold is not responding (whether they're listening is a whole other thing that I cannot in good conscience comment on, because they are seeing us, the problem is their lack of response, not lack of reading comprehension and critical thinking).

so to every person that cheered for valko's cancellation: are you happy with THIS? I'm not even asking about valko.

are you happy with lads having to sloppily censor every text, every numbers that could've held hidden meaning for us to dissect?

are you happy with infold not responding to criticism in the slightest? if they can ignore an outrage at THIS scale, do you REALLY think they'll ever address kod or lighting issues or missing content or lack of a roadmap or main story being so slow or the reduction in animation in main story or what have you?

think for a second, do you really feel comfortable enough to spend hundreds of dollars supporting a company that handles backlash like THIS?

if this isn't a wake up call to everyone who celebrated valko's cancellation before, I really don't know what is.

they've shown they will throw caleb mains under the bus to protect their poster child raf.

they've shown they don't care for zayne mains either.

they've shown they don't care about sylus missing content.

they've shown they don't care about xavier mains complaining about kod's false advertisement.

they've shown they to an extent don't care about raf mains either, lying about revealing raf's 4th myth in july. we had to find that out ourselves because someone asked CUSTOMER SERVICE about it.

they've shown they don't care about global enough to give us even a CRUMB of communication. most things we had to learn from cn girlies telling us, NOT infold.

WAKE UP.

THIS ISN'T EVEN ABOUT VALKO ANYMORE. THE GAME WE ALL LOVED IS SLOWLY DYING AND INSTEAD OF BEING DEVASTATED YOU CHOOSE TO DANCE ON ITS GRAVE?

don't log in and don't spend.

One of the hardest things about being a larger lolita is knowing where to shop. In a fashion where most major brands only carry one size, and “one size” more often than not does not equal “your size” it can be easy to get discouraged. Don’t fret, though, because while we may not have as many choices as the smaller girls, there are still plenty of options for plus sized lolitas, you just have to know where to shop! 

First and foremost, when it comes to shopping for lolita in general, but ESPECIALLY for plus size lolita, it is very important to know your measurements. Knowing you’re a size “XL” or “18” may be useful when it comes to “normal” fashion, but those labels are pretty meaningless in lolita. Bust and Waist are the most important measurements when it comes to lolita fashion. Your bust measurement can be found by measuring the fullest part of your chest (while wearing a bra) and your waist is the smallest part of your torso, right between the ribcage and the belly button. If you’re tall, its useful to know the distance from your waist to your knees, too, so you can make sure to get a skirt of the appropriate length. Learn these measurements in both inches and centimeters! 

Once you know your measurements, its time for the fun part- shopping! While its true that most Japanese brands offer only one size, a few of the smaller ones offer clothing for larger girls. Most notably, Maxicimam recently released a plus-size line known as “Lovely Size” (buy them through their Rakuten Global shop or CD Japan). Milky-Ange is another brand which carries larger sizes (and they also do maid dresses, too, if you’re into that sort of thing). They go up to size XL, and unlike what you may be thinking its not a “Japanese XL equals American Medium” type of deal (they’re actually a bit larger than a lot of Western brand’s XL sizing!). Chantilly only offers one size of dress, but most of them are designed to fit and flatter girls of many sizes (buy directly from their webshop or through Harajuku Hearts). The Rakuten store World Import JJ offers both cosplay and lolita items in sizes 3L and 5L, though I believe you may need a shopping service to order from them. 

Aside from those, most major Japanese brands try to accommodate customers of all sizes as best as they can. While the majority of dresses may be too small, keep an eye out for fully shirred or fully back shirred items (Tip: don’t like the look of full shirring? A fully shirred bodice can easily be hidden underneath a nice jacket or cardigan for a more elegant look!). 

However, for the average plus size lolita, the majority of your purchase are going to be off brand or indie brand. Bodyline carries several items in sizes 2L and 4L (note that just because the letter size is the same doesn’t mean the measurements are necessarily the same! Pay attention to measurements, I’ve seen size 4L items that would be too small for me and size 2L that would fit me just fine! The sizing is really random). Many TaoBao stores can also do custom sizing for a small extra fee (though you must order using a shopping service! I prefer TaoBaoSpree, but there are a number of good shopping services out there). I have a list of which TaoBao stores can provide custom sizing here. Fan Plus Friend is another good shop for larger girls. It is generally recommended that you order directly off the size chart instead of doing custom sized, but I’ve found that if you provide A LOT of measurements (even more than what they ask for! Be very specific!) that I’ve had success. If replicas are what you’re after, take a look at Oo Jia on Facebook (also Dream of lolita and Kidsyoyo, but they’re located in the TaoBao shop list). 

Non-Japanese Indie brands also tend to have a lot more options for plus size lolitas. I’ve compiled a list of Etsy stores that sell lolita on my main blog that you should take a look at (not every shop on that list is guaranteed to offer custom/larger sizing, just have a look around and if need be, contact the shop owner).

Here are a few non-Etsy based indie brands that offer options for bigger girls:

Stocking Shock

Gloomth (gothic and lolita)

Elegy

Glitter Tale

The Phantom & the Maiden

Retroscope (mostly Steampunk, but a small selection of lolita and aristo)

The Floral Notebook

Ergi (custom sizing available for certain items)

Lady Sloth 

Ista Mori

Scary Tales

Baby Ponytail

Anna House

Cherie Cerise (standard sizing may fit up to the smaller end of plus size, but custom sizing is available)

Bunny House

Rouge Aerie

Goth Loli Closet (Blue Label dresses offer larger sizes)

And luckily, the lolita community is filled with so many talented seamstresses! If you can’t sew yourself, you can always commission someone to make a garment for you. I love to commission seamstresses because not only can I be sure that my dress will fit me perfectly, but I can have a totally unique dress of my own design, too! A lot of Etsy sellers take commissions, but you can also scour Sew_loli for available seamstresses, as well. 

And lastly, don’t be afraid to buy second hand! All the usual places like EGL-Comm-Sales, Yahoo Japan, Closet Child, and other consignment shops are worth checking out, but if you want somewhere specifically geared towards plus sizes, head on over to EGL_Plus or the Plus Size Lolita Sales in English group on Facebook! The lolita auction site, Lacemarket also has a tag specifically for plus-size friendly listing.