Sylus is my husband

This kind of mindset is emotional cuckoldry and total surrogate ersatz-feeling, with not a drop of sincerity in it. Imagine a girl who beats her chest declaring that she madly loves her man to the grave. Yet at the same time, she sits with rapturous adoration on a little chair in the corner of the bedroom, watching her "beloved" passionately embrace, kiss, and lead another woman to bed—and she claps her hands with delight, squealing, "Oh my God, what chemistry they have, I just love their pairing!!"

This is a total, clinical lack of self-worth and the syndrome of being an eternal draft. Those who are capable of voluntarily separating themselves from their avatar in an otome game are subconsciously signing a confession of their own inferiority. They mentally agree to the role of a third wheel. To the role of a faceless shadow, allowed only to peep through the keyhole at someone else's celebration of life. They lack the courage to claim the foreground for themselves, to put on their own wedding ring, and to accept the love of their favorite directly. They are more comfortable remaining a dirty observer in the bushes, because deep inside them sits a persistent feeling: "I am not worthy of a man like the LI loving me directly."

Cheap falseness and emotional impotence. True, deep human love is by nature selfish, possessively jealous, and absolute. It demands exclusivity. If you truly love, you are physically incapable of sharing your partner with some fictional "separate character." The LI, in every glance, in every micro-expression, in every kiss and passionate night, transmits his feelings directly to the player through the screen. And if you find yourself adoring "their" love, it means only one thing: you are lying. Your "love" is shallow, castrated, and fake. You don't love the character-you simply consume, incapable of bearing the real depth and weight of true devotion. What's even funnier is that they seriously think their opinion carries weight and is worth being heard. But all they can do is stink. Even the majority of the revenue comes from CN players.

Let's call it what it is: this is pure hypocrisy.

In real life, it's impossible to sincerely love a person, consider them your partner, and at the same time gleefully pair them up with other people and take pleasure in it. Love by its very nature is the desire to be together, it's exclusivity, it's jealousy, it's the acknowledgment of each other's absolute importance. If you can calmly "give away" a character to someone else in your head or in fanfiction, then your words about love are empty noise, cheap theatrical drama, and pretense. There's not even a whiff of true, deep attachment there.

True, pure, and sincere love in media spaces exists only among yumejoshi.

It is precisely the yume who possess that rare courage and purity of feeling to openly say: "I love him. He is my man. Our connection is real, and the screen is not a wall but a portal." Yumejoshi don't seek compromises, don't try to sit on two chairs at once, and don't engage in emotional cuckold by watching their beloved from the bushes. They pour their soul, time, their genuine hormones and emotions into these relationships, maintaining absolute fidelity to their choice, exchanging pieces of their souls across dimensions.

Otome game developers create their worlds, maps, and affectionate nicknames from the LIs individually for each player, not for outside observers. Anyone who tries to sever this connection and turn a deeply personal story into a spectator show is simply signing their own emotional deafness.

The hypocrisy lies in the double standard applied to the same action-writing a fanfic-depending on who the object of desire is. If the author desires a male character for herself, it's "cringe," "embarrassing," "schizofrenia." If the author desires to see two male characters together, it's "art," "representation," "deep analysis."

But allow me to ask: what difference does it make? In both cases, the author is using characters to satisfy their own emotional and aesthetic needs. In both cases, characters may be given traits that are not true to canon. In both cases, the plot may be far removed from reality. There's only one difference: in the first scenario, a woman openly says, "I want to be desired. I want to be loved. I deserve to be fought over." And that is something society does not forgive.

In the second scenario, the woman distances herself from her own desire. She projects it onto two characters, making herself an invisible observer. This is safe. This is socially acceptable. It doesn't provoke aggression, because a woman dare not place herself at the center of her own desire. The misogyny here isn't overt - no one is shouting "I hate women." It's internalized, embedded in our cultural codes. It manifests in the fact that female desire is considered shameful by default. A woman must not want too openly. She must not imagine herself at the center of a romantic story. She must not dream of being desired and fought over. That is "indecent." That is "naive." That is "childish." But as soon as a woman stops desiring for herself and starts desiring for two characters-her work becomes "adult." Because she has ceased to be a subject. She has become a director, a cinematographer, a spectator - anything but a participant. And a participant - that is shameful. A participant is "someone who thinks she deserves love." A participant must be put in her place, mocked, and brought back down to earth.

And that is misogyny: a woman's desire must be mediated, belonging to someone else, directed at others. But not at herself. Never at herself. Why does this work in reverse?

You often hear the argument: "But Y/N fanfics are so stupid – there's always a secretary who makes her boss fall in love with her, and then it turns out the mafia is after her, and she's actually a princess." And yes, such plots exist. But the issue isn't the quality of the writing. The issue is why similar plots in shipping fanfics (where a dragon loves a vampire, and the vampire loves a werewolf, and they're all fighting for their place in the sun) don't provoke the same rejection?

Because in a shipping fanfic, a "silly plot" is just a "plot." But in a Y/N fanfic, it becomes a reason to attack the author personally. "Do you seriously think a guy that hot would ever look at you?" – this is a question never asked of a shipper. Because a shipper doesn't lay claim to anything personal. But a Y/N reader does. And for that, she is punished.

Feeling so validated I could cry siempre son las cosas pequeñas como esta, como jugar un Otome como self insert, como imaginar a nuestros personajes favoritos queriendonos más que a nadie, las que hacen que vivir valga la pena.

If you call yourself Jasmine or Snowflake but say, "Zayne loves MC so much" — you are not Jasmine or Snowflake. You are just a wall/camera that does not exist, and you have no right to equate yourself with those who are immersed in the game and know that the player is the main heroine.

If you call yourself Little Star but say, "Xavier deserves MC" — you are not Little Star. You are just a wall/camera that does not exist, and you have no right to equate yourself with those who are immersed in the game and know that the player is the main heroine.

If you call yourself Miss Bodyguard or Little Fish but say, "Rafayel is so funny around MC! He loves her so much" — you are not Miss Bodyguard or Little Fish. You are just a wall/camera that does not exist, and you have no right to equate yourself with those who are immersed in the game and know that the player is the main heroine.

If you call yourself Little Apple but say, "Caleb and MC have such a tragic fate, I love them so much, I want to save them from this game" — you are not Little Apple. You are just a wall/camera that does not exist, and you have no right to equate yourself with those who are immersed in the game and know that the player is the main heroine.

Don't confuse true immersion with mere observation from the sidelines. I don't want some wall/camera to think they are the same as me - someone who is truly living the story with her love interest. If you've been on a horse for one lap around the park, that doesn't make you a master of equestrian sports. You just sat in the saddle once.

I saw a comment that simply blew my mind. Under a video where a girl dreams of entering the world of Love and Deepspace, someone wrote: "But all the love interests will still love the MC."

What exactly does this "logic" imply? That if you were transported into the game world, you would become some no-name, random NPC, a complete outsider whom the characters wouldn’t even glance at? That they already have a "real" heroine there, and you would just walk around watching your favorite men love someone else?

If you, a real person, possessing supernatural ability, physically appear in the game world, you automatically become part of that world. You are not a ghost. You are a living person who can interact, speak, and touch. You become an active participant.

And if this world is structured so that there are characters ready for deep emotional connection, why on earth would they ignore you and love some abstract "other one"? Who is this "other one"? Where is she? She doesn’t exist. There is only you-the person who arrived in their world.

To assert that upon entering the game, you will remain a nobody to them, and their love will be directed at someone invisible and absent -this is not just the height of illogic. It is an attempt to impose a parallel reality onto the game world that exists only in the minds of those who are afraid to claim their rightful place.

Your account = your entry point: this is precisely what happens when you simply play the game. Your account is that very "entry point." It is YOU in that world. It is not a "separate personality" that you control like a puppet. It is YOUR avatar, created so that you can be there.

The game developers constantly confirm, at every level: the player is the main heroine.

The world of Love and Deepspace is structured so that every girl has her own Sylus, her own Zayne, her own Rafayel. This does not contradict the canon. This is the canon.

Just as every girl has her own account, she has her own story, her own experience, her own relationship with these characters. They are not "shared." They are unique to each individual.

Therefore, when you say "the love interests will love the MC," you fundamentally misunderstand one thing: the MC in LaDS is not a fixed character with a name and biography. It is a ROLE. And that role is played by the PLAYER.

If you are a camera/a wall for observation, then shut up, sit in your swamp, since you chose that humiliated role instead of being the main heroine. Stop writing such idiocy.