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Dropping In ➾ Luke Gram

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- When someone accepts a ‘don’t talk to me right now’, they’re actually respecting your boundaries, yes, some of the people who indeed just say okay might ‘not actually care’ about you, but others are actually listening to you saying no, which is THE DECENT THING TO DO. As a test then, this fails entirely, because you can’t discern between the two groups

- Saying one thing expecting people to do the other is manipulative, is the basis of abusive behaviour and can even be ableist as it assumes the other person can pick up on very specific social cues when they might not… and even more, those social cues are TERRIBLY WRONG as explained in my next point

- You are reinforcing the idea that when people (especially girls) say no and set boundaries, they actually mean yes and are extending an invitation. Society as a whole teaches girls that they should play ‘hard to get’, they teach girls to say no when they mean yes, and they teach boys that girls say no when they mean yes - and although that’s not the only reason why girls’ boundaries are not respected, it is a big part of why when a girl says no, men assume they just have to insist. Obviously, this is not the whole extent of rape culture, this is not the cause of it, this is not going to directly cause anyone to become a rapist - but it’s a behaviour that it’s in line with the line of thought that girls’ boundaries should not be respected.

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