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trust that everything will fall into place without you forcing it there.

With his signature wit and profound wisdom, Alan Watts gently reminds us that our best intentions can sometimes unknowingly create chaos. True kindness means understanding the nature of others and honoring their way of being, rather than imposing our own beliefs about what’s “good” for them.

In helping others, let’s first learn to truly listen, observe, and respect their path, so our “help” doesn’t become an unintended burden. After all, even kindness requires mindfulness.

* For Alan Watts, kindness in action stems from a profound understanding of the interconnectedness of all beings and the "myth of the ego-in-a-bag-of-skin". It involves recognizing that the self is not a separate entity but a part of the whole, which inspires compassionate action that honors the way others exist rather than imposing one's own beliefs. True kindness, therefore, is an authentic empathy that extends to both self and others, bridging mere good intentions with genuine understanding and leading to inner peace.

Key Aspects of Kindness in Action According to Watts

Universal Awareness: Watts believed that everyone is connected, and the self is not a separate entity. This realization fosters a deep, authentic empathy for others.

Understanding, Not Imposing: Kindness involves truly listening, observing, and respecting another's path without imposing your own beliefs or ideas about what is "good" for them.

Honoring Others' Existence: Instead of trying to change or "fix" people, genuine kindness accepts and honors their inherent way of being.

Self-Compassion as a Foundation: The relationship with oneself is foundational. To be truly kind to others, one must first practice self-kindness, extending patience and acceptance to their own inner world.

Action Beyond Good Intentions: Watts highlighted the paradox where good intentions, without true understanding, can sometimes create chaos. Therefore, kindness in action requires mindfulness and conscious effort to understand.

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𝜗𝜚 i am safe and supported

𝜗𝜚 i know i will be okay

𝜗𝜚 my anxiety is lying to me

𝜗𝜚 i breathe in calmness

𝜗𝜚 calmness flows through me

𝜗𝜚 i have survived this before

𝜗𝜚 i let go of worries and negativity

𝜗𝜚 i can overcome every challenge

𝜗𝜚 my thoughts don’t define me

𝜗𝜚 my thoughts can’t hurt me

𝜗𝜚 i am calm, strong and present

Hydrate right

Eat balanced meals

Move your body

Prioritize sleep

Practice mindfulness

Fuel your mind

Connect with loved ones

Manage stress

Schedule self-care

Get enough sunlight

Meditation is simple. It is so simple that we invent all kinds of complications to make it more interesting. In zen, we like to get dressed up in robes, chant, bow, drink tea, and then sit in rows, on cushions, on mats, facing a wall. To meditate though, all you need is a mind and a few minutes to check it out.

1. Don’t rush things. Take the time to really get to know each other.

2. Focus on positivity rather than negativity. Getting angry quickly or being harsh and critical will undermine and ruin even strong relationships. In contrast, being kind and gentle will help develop love.

3. Appreciate the little things the other person does. Don’t overlook their efforts; don’t just expect their help.

4. Enjoy the ways you’re different – and not clones of one another. It makes things interesting (and creates healthy space).

5. Don’t get into a rut so that you’re bored when you’re together. Keeping doing something different, or keep trying something new.

6. Learn how to be listener, someone who’s understanding, and helps their partner open up and share what’s bothering them.