[con’t: very anxious and assume it’s because they are bored or uninterested or because I can only hold their interest for a short time because I have nothing interesting to offer in depth. I guess that I am basically thinking that I am unattractive to guys (even if there is a lot of counter evidence in my past). It’s only romantically linked since I don’t have a problem with friends taking a while to answer - I know that they are busy and will get back to me. I’m enfj]

Romantic attachments are much more intimate and carry greater potential for harsh judgments. Enfjs who lack confidence in their ability to contribute something good to relationships usually suffer from unhealthy idealization, which is a common NF problem. Enfjs idealize through Fe-Ni and reflexively make judgments through social comparison. When they like someone romantically, it is usually because they have put that person up on a pedestal. Placing someone on a pedestal means that you judge them as “better” for some reason and, therefore, their judgment is honored as being more valuable, meaningful, and trustworthy. 

Idealizing makes it possible for enfjs to artificially improve their sense of self-worth through association with another, because being judged positively by someone whose judgment they trust would be quite a boon to the ego, but this conveniently overlooks the fact that being judged negatively by them would be an equally powerful blow to the ego, akin to existential annihilation. When your sense of self-worth is obtained through the judgment of someone you’ve put on a pedestal, you are at their mercy, not to mention that you open yourself up to exploitation. In short, it’s hard to feel secure in your relationships when you’re unable to treat yourself as equal to other people, when you automatically place yourself in a lower position that constantly threatens to trigger fears of inferiority/inadequacy. You’ve judged yourself negatively before anyone else has.

The root of enfj insecurity about other people is: 1) low self-worth, and 2) illusions, sometimes extreme ones, about the worth of people in general. To tackle the first problem requires auxiliary Ni development so that you are able to reflect with more insight into who you are and how to feel genuine self-worth via self-actualization rather than relying on the judgment of others. The second problem requires that you give up the bad habit of compulsively judging people’s worth and comparing them to each other based on very superficial standards. It’s tiring and counter-productive to always be judging people, judging yourself, judging how others judge you - it’s a poor use of Ti. What makes a person a good and worthy person? It’s not what you currently believe, otherwise you’d be able to grasp your own worth. 

hes so cute and ive been collecting pixels of him but?? hes gotta have a name right???

ah! i have also seen a lot of him. so i've gone on a little mission.

took a few different searches but by searching "pixel cat japan before: 2010" (to make sure only search results from before 2010 would show up, to filter out both AI and also because i felt this guy was from the old web days) has led me to a reddit post!

and low and behold! someone answered saying what they were and also that they had a website archive collection of over 1600+ of them!

to quote this website "Nuko is an original character from the Japanese company “NTT Docomo“, specifically from the subscription service called “スゴ得コンテンツ“ (“Amazing Content“) providing wallpapers, and decomail/emotes to Japanese Docomo clients (with a lot of different characters)."