So Iâve been asked for specifics prompted by this ask by @heidi-slave, and I thought Iâd share them in a bigger post where I could elaborate more (thank you for the question/excuse to yammer on about my amazing partners being hot).
Pavlovian conditioning is classic, well known, and a really easy thing to leverage. If you start to mix this with hypnosis, power exchange, and the biological head fuck created by orgasm denial, you end up with the hairpin primed machine that is the human brain. (Honestly, the denial isnât even required, it just speeds up the process and is an added bonus for me). After that all it takes is willingness and consistency.
Iâve had multiple male bodied partners who have dared to feed me the bullshit statement that nipple play for them would be impossible because, as everyone knows, thatâs only sexually stimulating on female bodied people. I donât think any of them ever got to walk away without ending up a total nipple slut to my memory. Lesson learned, and a great improvement to their attitude involving unlearning gendered bullshit over the course of our relationship.
As a control freak of a mindfucker, really thereâs no particular thing that is to small for me to want to change in a person. Iâve mentioned before, and it remains true, that my interest in brainwashing and conditioning of my partners has nothing to do with wanting to change them specifically. That, if I like them enough to delve deeply into very long term altering behavior, I like them enough that I really donât want them different. Thatâs not the point. So any change Iâd make would really be for the sake of the power play, and likely be something that would be changed again at a different point. Examples being: Iâve played with temporarily giving partners a boot fetish (I got new boots and wanted to have them properly appreciated~). I had a play partner who told me no when I was being a brat and licking their nose (and we had a relationship that revolved around a lot of CNC and the negation of their ability to refuse me unless they were willing to safeword), so I made the licking of their nose into something that made them shiver down to their toes and moan embarrassingly audibly. One of my play partners finds pocket watches to be too stereotypical, and they have no real attraction toward them, so they are currently being conditioned to reset that belief to something more in line with my preferences. Iâve made spirals and hypnotic visuals mind melting to most of my partners Iâve had for any length of time, though never a one of them thus far was ever very susceptible to them when we first met, nor had any real pull toward them. I just like the image of slack jawed, blank eyed toys getting brainwashed by cheesy blinky lights. And, almost every single time, Iâve just through the way I play given each and every person whoâs spent any real time with me a hypno fetish. Even if they had one prior, Iâve been told that itâs been made oh so much worse.
What can I say? I love playing with conditioning far too much. Itâs so intimately hot to see someone bare that mark of trust and affection in their mind for so long. That, and Iâm just a relentless control freak.
