There were hot people in the '90s; they ate bread

So...what do you actually do?

Me, a lady who has spent the day sitting in the dark inside with the blinds drawn, watching Fallow videos on the sofa: I don't know what your problem is, it's fine

This isn't a defence of Josh as such because (like everyone else in the show) he can be a shit, and I don't think Tom is completely wrong. Josh can be horrible to him and I do think it wasn't great for either of them to just kind of plod along together and stay stuck. But also, I feel like they pretty much "bully" each other fairly equally. Tom usually gives as good as he gets, no? And it just feels a bit much to blame his stagnation on Josh. When has Tom ever tried to do better? I mean maybe he wasn't exactly trying to blame Josh exactly. I think that it's probably fair to say "being around this person too much isn't good for me" without it meaning "it's their fault they're not good for me" or "they're actively trying to hold me back"...but also maybe that is what he meant? Or maybe he was just saying it in the moment because he needed reasons to convince himself that moving in with Ella was the right thing to do.