A twilight zone is what I call home, in Oregon

We're in the shade for future generations era now; specifically we have to do the tree planting. As I followed a lot of specific porn blogs for a while, certainly they *must be all foreign state actor types* by now in economic downturn terms. *I don't know if they vote*

Seeing eighties Trump campaigning against the *sitting vice president OF a former vice president* made president, makes me question if democracy was in greater distress under a second Bush generation or the contenders for office now.

Women get pushback in politics that make Obama's term look easy and effortless.

Someone politic blogging here posted "Biden bites babies"

Anything Trump said is still floating around. It's going to be a rough ride for a hundred years or something (think of America in the 1800s) for this to *stop looking like a third world country*, that it has clearly turned into for lack of immediate comparison. Seriously. Asia lives in the future; Russia has crippling aids and other epidemics keeping "overpopulation" from ever being in their future.

Ashland where I'm from, we're demolishing buildings that were Ashlander institutions; schools had long closed ahead of that. Bicycles are making a comeback. It's such that Ashland has leveled to the rural urban decay of the rest of the valley proper.

Stuff that I had complained about, at times, looks like a latino community flexing from the shadows anymore. Ashland high has a *full on Mexican mosaic design* going up the Iowa side of the building; renovations around earthquake subsuming those for fires from a building first constructed.

"the yellow" which is as much amusement through implying the Yellow Wallpaper as bounding the space as much as "I identify as tired" stand-up where she's talking about "experiencing the color yellow a little too intensely" taking valerian (never have myself) and painting sunflowers. Call it cartel consolidated power because anymore that's what's carrying southern Oregon.

"Coopers" which felt like an incidental to go with the theater (in an Irish founded town), seem struggling to project england over the space. Me being a guy named Brian, that's never say particularly well but interests have been bashing horns over this space since I was born.

Coopers driven by latinos are becoming more common because they're economy cars that no one wants; as driven by their respective estimation normally by the *lowest level worth of the whiteness sliding scale*. There's that and then "minorities" start. It's happening; ashland is not affluent anymore. Frozen pizzas are a staple around here anymore.

Amidst *loads and loads of single mothers* where I had explained to an uncle forever ago that "that was all he needed to know about what had changed here", as someone stationed in southeast asia as a naval intel guy; rampant prostitution that targets tourists tends to leave that behind when the ships stop coming in for shore leave. All the people who dressed like twenty somethings, they're fifty plus now and dressing even younger because *that's what the hipster meets drug trade* affected here.

She's a life coach or something. So here goes;

So you're one of these dudes on tumblr trying to present as a sex object for women; whatever the reasoning is. Meaning that *in general* you don't want to be oogled by men, but you will.

And it's not going to come off as commitment worthy just to crouch with no clothes or some clothes on.

Again, if you're in an environment where "coming off as unmasculine" could get you raped by men; you probably shouldn't be doing this. (A woman's problem that you're inviting yourself by putting yourself out there)

"If you've got it, flaunt it" as they say in the design business for clothing. *You are going to come up short in places* "feeling good about [I had thighs from doing hundreds of squats a day for decades]" something men who are gay go for (not at all what I wanted) as I found out. Women aren't so keen on it.

(I see a lot of the guys on here trying to call attention to themselves, doing the "hyper masculinity thing" like "cracked abs" are going to develop a *female audience* from something widely held to be a "gay thing"; women don't want that, trust me. Nobody cares and that's a lot of work *beyond* being in reasonably good shape)

When you're talking about...*absolutely any fetishized activity* you're talking about a lot of work on *your own time* conditioning for it; flexibility for getting tied up, for instance. You're not going to lose the predatory gays for that anymore than women lose catcalling men.

Anal sex isn't particularly any sexual orientation *but takes preparation* and moreover conditioning of it's own; you, a heterosexual man **are going to have to purchase buttplugs** so dommes don't hurt you (for real). It's not something that becomes possible because you're aroused and in the bedroom; women aren't at any kind of fault for *what you haven't trained for*. Anything people are offering to "the right dominatrix" (including lesbians looking) they need to be prepared for.

As I've said before, anything you've seen by pornstars is absolutely *a sexual equivalent of the fucking olympics*. It's going to be really easy to tell how difficult *almost anything is* the first time that you find a willing partner and try it.

While you're trying to base a whole relationship around sexualizing activities, could I recommend working on yourselves? Maybe reading about female targeted bdsm (which is the norm) to get an idea of what you're supposed to be doing. Any of the comprehensive guides (and they exist for men too as homework projects, as well as for sincerely interested women; who also need to work on themselves). Dating is going to be very difficult and very complicated as compared to vanilla life; you have to actually be attracted to each other in order for it to work where, whole marriages can and do exist in the absence of genuine sexual chemistry.

No woman *who has this stuff* as a result of serious vesting and time investment with a boyfriend or husband, is going to share it in the open. Fetlife couples with decades long marriages, maybe "you know, when we were starting out...we should have known [pitfalls none of you guys have considered]" That happens to be a resource in itself.

(ALSO, you're courting a homicidal homophobia with some of these things when they become widely known; chastity is BOTH suggesting that men hung like horses can "try you out" because you've "made yourself into a girl consensually" with exactly the same male gaze "she was askin for it" thinking; AND suggesting that "you might be just heteroflexible enough to be threatening to someone's fragile masculinity". Either of these things can and do get people murdered in real life)

Responsibilities and life stuff exist anyway. And *you did know* on the internet and among kinky communities that *men will see you sexually provocative* if you even know what that is, because generally men don't. And yes, men will see you naked or sexualized or whatever (maybe even within a dominatrix relationship because of the sexual and emotional maturity required to hold the thing together). *Women deal with all these things everyday*

(I'm straight though non homophobic and more or less indifferent to men, and I've maintained a gay fanclub since I was a freshman in highschool; not my jam but these things happen) And you may find that when *you put forth the effort to actually take care of yourself like a sex object* because there's a hygiene threshold where women lose interest and men gain it. Abs; same thing. Toned is good where a six-pack is pushing it, and an eight pack looks stone gay.

And again, women can't trust withdrawn consent alone not to get them out of dangerous situations; present as receptive to being "dominated" as a man and expect dangerous people. Who expect that to mean "being receptive to subjugation".

(IME, I've seen all kinds of sexual abuse and done all kinds of experimenting AND read a lot of really deep therapeutic psychological works)

Honestly it's a post doctoral approach to sex for dominant women; something that's like a college 2-year when its the other way around. Women can get by with yoga poses, props or costumes and "sell deviance"; men don't have those things owing to never being designated sex objects.

(I had read a self avowed "hot chick" here explaining "what happens when a guy is lucky to have her", at first it's exaltation, then scorn, then a resentment borne of jealousy, and finally it's to "strangling a goose laying golden eggs" as I'm calling it. Something about idolatry; nothing in life can ever measure up to it)