mother caretaker

Anxiety sucks, it’s real and it’s one hell of an obstacle. We aren’t all super confident people on the other side of the screen. Here’s some questions for the more nervous Muns out there!

How hard is it for you to approach new people you want to interact with?

What’s something you do to try to get to know other’s?

Should people think you’re intimidating/scary?

What’s a good way to start talking to you if people are scared to?

What’s a tip you would give to people trying to get to know you?

Do you dive into conversation easily?

How would you rate your conversation skills?

Do you feel awkward/nervous/etc trying to get to know people?

What is something you want people to know right away about yourself?

What are some things you worry about in terms of new people?

Stranger making small talk, yay or nay for you?

Introvert? Extrovert? Ambivert?

Do you focus more on talking role play first or talking casually about anything first?

Does knowing the other mun make writing threads easier or harder?

Do random messages out of the blue upset you at all?

Do random asks out of the blue upset you at all?

Do random memes out of the blue upset you?

Should people be nervous to send you things at all?

Is communication important to you?

How open are you to talking out problems and getting them resolved?

How scared are you of people, compared to how scared they should be of you?

What’s a way someone could ease the anxiety of unfamiliar conversation?

How much anxious internal screaming goes on with you on a regular basis?

How would friends describe you for the lovely people trying to get to know you? (Friends may send an answer to this question with the ask)

What was your first impression of the roleplay community on Tumblr? And what’s your impression of it now?

Tell us about the first fandom you roleplayed in. Are you still part of it or have you moved onto others?

Who was your first muse? 

How many roleplay blogs do you have?

What’s your oldest roleplay blog?

What are your thoughts on the current roleplay trends on here right now?

What is the one trend you miss the most that’s no longer popular or seen as much as it was before?

Are there other websites you roleplay on that’s not on Tumblr?

How long have you been roleplaying?

Are there any fandom(s) you avoid roleplaying in?

What made you start wanting to roleplay?

Are there any characters you’re interested in wanting to roleplay as? 

Are you interested in creating an oc and roleplaying as them?

What are your thoughts on duplicates?

What’s your impression on blogs who are selective/private?

What do you expect from others when they want to roleplay?

What are your thoughts on people who goes all out on the aesthetic for their blogs? Do you think they’re have the right to express their creativity however they want?

What’s the one thing you want to try the most on your blog?

Give us a headcanon about your muse that you never shared to anyone else or wanting to explore deeper.

Is there someone you admire on here?

What is it you prefer: angst, fluff, or smut? Why?

If you could recommend at least five blogs to your followers, who would they be?

What’s the one thing you dislike about the roleplaying community on Tumblr?

Where do you draw your inspiration from?

Do you still keep in touch with your old roleplay partners?

Is there anything you can change about your skills as a roleplayer?

What songs do you listen to when wanting to get into the mood of roleplaying?

Ever had a falling out with a partner?

Which fandom(s) do you wanna roleplay in/crossover with but you’re too afraid to approach?

Hello. It’s been awhile, hasn’t it? I have been outta the fandom for some time. I missed Bea though. So…

And this goes for ALL fandom RPCs. These are all things that I have observed at many different points throughout this year. From many different people from many different fandoms.  I’ve done my part to be better about some of these myself already. It’s never too late to correct old, bad behaviors and build a community that’s happier and safer. 

Confronting people about unfollowing you. Regardless if you were long time mutuals or not, if someone unfollowed you, they probably had their reasons. And they don’t need to justify their choice to you nor do you get to decide if their reason is “good enough” for you. Let people unfollow/soft block/hard block however they want so that they feel safe in the community.

The habits of begging for things from others while not reciprocating. People will exhaust themselves of things to constantly shower upon you if you’re not doing the same every now and then. If you are constantly reblogging memes, constantly asking people to send your muses questions, to write your muses starters and never being the one to do those things yourself… It’s unfair and everyone knows it, yet it keeps happening year after year. If you’re going to ask others for things, be willing to reach out on your own every now and then. 

 Acting like other people’s rules don’t apply to you. If someone says they don’t RP with a specific fandom/genre that is their choice and you neeed to respect it. If they say they only write a specific way, you need to respect that. If they say they are mutuals only, YOU NEED TO RESPECT THAT. No one needs to justify their rules to anyone. Most people have those rules because someone in their past did things to them they didn’t like and they are trying to prevent it from happening again. It doesn’t matter if you’re a new follower or a long time mutual. Follow each other’s blog rules. If you view yourself as the exception to the rule, you’re part of the reason that rule exists. 

Vague blogging about your mutuals. Just. Stop it. Confront people in private or take your hands off of your keyboard. Be a good person and talk to someone if they do something you’re not okay with or just unfollow/block them. Vague-ing on the dash just fills everyone who sees it with unnecessary anxiety and a fear that “Oh god are they talking about ME? Did I do something wrong??” and they have no way to know because you chose to make it everyone’s problem instead of confronting the issue directly.

Emotionally manipulative posts to get people to respond to your stuff. No more making a scene to get people to send you a bunch of stuff. Even worse is when people do this and then delete the posts where they did it as if it never happened. There are better ways to get people to interact with you than cussing at your mutuals. These are your rp partners. They deserve your respect. and tying into #2 up there… Especially don’t do this if you’re not sending things to others as well. This breeds an unhappy and unhealthy RP environment

The lack of respect for RPers of all ages. No one is too old or too young. Stop treating new, young RPers like they aren’t as good by default. Or older RPers like they’re out of touch and don’t belong in the community. And by that same notion, respect if people aren’t comfortable RPing with people outside their own age groups. If a blog is 18+ only, that should be respected- Especially if there is graphic content on their blog. If a minor isn’t comfortable RPing with the 30+ community, we should not be pressuring KIDS to interact with strange adults online. 

Pressuring people to leave their safe spaces and RP with fandoms they don’t like or just aren’t in.  If someone isn’t comfortable rping with a specific fandom, a specific genre or a specific type of character, they are allowed to have those preferences. Do you have to like it? No. But you do have to respect it. We need to stop this “Just treat them like an OC if you don’t know/like the fandom” stuff because there are always more factors you don’t know. And the ties to the source material that is probably making them uncomfortable will always be there in your muse’s portrayal. Because they are not your OC that you made up. They will ALWAYS be a character from a fandom. No one can just shut off the part of their brain that recognizes something that potentially triggers them and view it as something  brand new. Stop expecting people to set aside their boundaries for the sake of your muse(s). 

Feel free to add more if you feel the need.