About Me / FAQ
I often get the same things asked to me, or find myself repeating the same things to different people, so I thought I’d write a little bit about me along with some FAQs.
About Me
I'm Andy, or Pandy to most people. Yes the name does come from the kids' TV character. I used to hate it, but now I embrace it. No, I don't particularly care what you think of it.
I was born in 1980, which makes me 46 at the time of writing (updated February 2026). I expect this number to go up every year, as it has for most of my life.
I have been into BDSM/Kink in one form or another for most of my adult life and I think even before coming of age I was intrigued by many of its concepts in a way. I always had a bit of an obsession with mind control/possession and humans not being human.
I've lived in both the UK and Switzerland and have been active in the local BDSM/Kink scenes in both countries, having organised events and hosted munches in both. I was until recently the host of the Eastbourne Munch in East Sussex, UK and still am co-organiser of Reverence BDSM events. I now live in north-east England.
I have been with my wife k since 2009, married since 2016. She was my sub/slave until her health prevented her from being so, but she is also my lover and romantic partner as well as my best friend - I don't have any interest in that changing. We do however have an open relationship and when it comes to BDSM and/or sexual escapades I do play with others and I am open to taking on a new slave.
My BDSM/Kink interests are quite varied and I am always open to try new things. I do have a particular penchant for humiliation, degradation, objectification and dehumanisation (as is no doubt apparent from my blog posts). Transformation, brainwashing, hypnosis and sensory deprivation are also of particular interest.
I have very few taboos and will happily discuss pretty much anything. My only real limits are scat and vomit - mainly because of the mess and smell.
I don't judge anyone for their kinks, unless that so-called kink is blatantly immoral or unethical (i.e. pedophilia, necrophilia etc.).
I prefer to take a holistic approach to sex and BDSM. I believe the whole body can be erogenous and not just the sex organs. The mind is just as important as the body.
Consent is not only essential, I find it highly erotic. When someone consents to an act that is intimate, or taboo, that almost gives me as big a thrill than the actual act itself.
I love to chat with people and I'm generally happy to interact with anyone as long as you're respectful and not an arsehole.
If you're a mysogynist, abuser, racist, homophobe, transphobe or any other kind of bigot, you're not welcome here. If you're trying pass your bigotry or abusive nature off as a kink, you're not welcome here.
Feel free to drop me a message, or ask a question. Anything you write to me in chat is kept private between us, unless otherwise agreed.
FAQ
What is your sexuality? I am heteroflexible. That means I am basically straight but I’m not against playing with someone who isn’t female.
Do you practise BDSM with men? I do but quite selectively. There must be a good synergy between us.
Do you like sissies? Sometimes. I wouldn’t say it was a particular interest of mine though.
Are you looking for a sub/slave/pet? I’m always open to it for the right person. Currently looking for a domestic slave object.
Can I be your sub/slave/pet? Perhaps, but not until I have got to know you first. Let's chat.
Can I send you photos of myself? Sure - I love to see what you look like. That said, I do not want dick pics.
Will you demand photos from me if I chat with you? No. Whilst of course I'd love to see you, I am more than happy to wait until you want to show yourself to me. Honestly, that is far sexier and more satisfying.
Does your wife know you’re on here? She certainly does. We have no secrets.
Turn-ons
In no particular order, and not an exhaustive list
Consent
Submissive behaviour
Gothic appearance
Androgyny
Redheads
Tattoos
Dirty mindedness
Empty-headedness
Turn-offs
In no particular order, and also not an exhaustive list
Bigotry
Racism
Bad hygiene
Fake attitude
Scat
Vomit
Facial hair
Kinks
Again in no particular order, etc etc
Dehumanisation
Objectification
Humiliation
Pet play
CNC
Anal play
Gags
Transformation
Metal bondage (chains, steel cuffs etc.)
TPE
Watersports
Chastity
Forced orgasms
Wax play
Scratching
Flogging/caning
