TOGETHER AGAIN IN HELL, THEN

here's my boyfriend, the substanceless faggot

i really think people need to stop acting like attraction does or should have any influence on predisposing someone towards misogyny. like it's obvious nonsense, straight and gay men can be just as misogynistic as each other and are equally as capable of reducing women to sexual objects. and lending any credence to this idea indirectly implies that women are more worthy of your concern if you want to fuck them. like where am i. what's going on. let's start with viewing women as people

you can never really care about csa as a lived experience aside from how it can be plumbed & extracted from as a fictional well for breezy aesthetics cause you will spend the rest of your life like the ragebaited fat dog in a cycle of perpetual anger

on the same wavelength, i think people are excessively glib about using 'molested' 'molestation' 'diddled' for fandom bullshit. not even saying there cant be space for glibness or jokes occasionally, but if one is incapable of ever demonstrating one singular moment of proper acknowledgement this is deserving of care, to me that likely means it wont ever happen & [SIDE-EYE] 🫩

it really does say something about the succession-style sexual rigmarole of repression & incestuous patriarchal possession that in the dialogue tree to establish a romantic rship with gorim he describes an anecdote in which the aeducan warden's chambers are entirely devoid of privacy & patrolled by a roaming band of male relatives beating the shit out of members of a lesser family potentially fucking her. which is of course a neutral action & means nothing when family does it

to be honest its really kind of crazy to me that akotsk was allowed to exist with 4 named women in total (3, if we are being sticklers since gwin ashford is something you can only know if you READ THE CREDITS), one of which gets the literal definition of fridged for man pain points, & never speaking with another named woman, regardless of whether its about men or not lol. like lowkey kind of unacceptable in 2026 & especially so in a fandom as routinely misogynistic as asoiaf

i also think a not insignificant part of my distaste is bc hotd had two young girls in different degrees & circumstances of csa only to end up unwittingly cultivating a misogynistic mainstream fandom where at least 40% hates one, the other 40% the other, & an unclear overlapping percentage where they hate both, & the response to that is seemingly clearly a mandate from hbo & executive producers where women had to be taken out of any narrative to be replaced with uncomplicated men in every single role they could feasibly be placed into