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The split attraction model hinges on an over-literal reading of words that were pathologically applied to LGBT people to describe our orientation as a whole, in a way that coercively sexualizes us. And, because people are still missing this, “-sexual” refers to gender, not solely “wanting to bang”.

Think of, like, every negative stereotype you know attached to the words “bisexual” and “homosexual”. They probably have something to do with us being sexually ravenous predators with no real regard for our partners. It’s almost like there’s a reason that the latter is considered offensive at best, and a full-on slur by many.

When you decide “bisexual” isn’t enough, or that “gay” isn’t enough, and that you also need “biromantic” and “homoromantic”, you are suggesting that “romance” is not inherently included (or, at the very least, prioritized) within gay and bisexual identities. Can you not see how this is deeply hurtful and plays into some of the most significant stereotypes about us? Not to mention, the idea that romantic and sexual attraction are so easily separated makes it VERY easy for many of us to push ourselves deeper into the closet. Thank FUCK I wasn’t on this site as a young teenager, because instead of confronting the reasons why I was terrified of the idea of dating another girl (surprise: it was fear of homophobic repercussion), I would’ve just said I was a “heteromantic bisexual” and called it a day and thus set myself back five years.

You can be a bisexual ace, or a gay ace, or, yes, even a straight ace, because who you’re attracted to - which is literally All That These Labels Are Supposed To Mean - is not the same thing as how you are attracted to them. The identities do not contradict each other, and to claim that they do is to claim truth in some age-old homophobic garbage.

I was talking about this with someone this morning. There's four characters of color on this entire movie and they're all glorified extras. Riley had less than ten minutes of screen time in a movie of almost two hours and she had probably twice as much as the other three. Not only do they have no real storylines but they're all props for the white people around them. They have zero agency or do questionable shit like frame the Good White Woman™️ with theft or make out in a closet with a woman who isn't your wife. Riley was also outed by a white woman. The twins and the husband are legit diversity tokens for Harper's mom and dad and nothing more. It's a mess for representation on all fronts.

Abby ending up with Riley would've addressed more than the shitty, nonsensical storyline she had with Harper. Do you know how groundbreaking it would've been if the first "big" lesbian Christmas movie ended up with a healthy, biracial relationship where one half of the couple was Latina???! And we wasted that for...*checks notes*...Horrible Harper??? Clea, ma'am???

Me: huh I wonder if lexa will be on thi—-