Hey man what's good?

Call me Bear, I'm 24. He/Him.

Ask box is open, come say hi if you want.

Minors get blocked on sight.

Dunno if im comin back yet, My life got really fucking chaotic and constantly dealing with my shit getting reposted was disheartening. I never thought my shit would get eyes on it and If i'd been able to assume it even could then i woulda done more to protect myself from it.

anyways, here's the important thing I wanted to say:

It's been over a year, and I've been moving in different social circles, talkin to new beautiful people, and learning lots.

Transandrophobia isn't real.

Trans men are oppressed because we're transgender. When zooming out and looking at the material systems that create oppression and marginalization, being a man is not a part of that.

As a black man, the major intersections i'm sitting at are being transgender, being neurodivergent, and being black.

There's no such thing as the wide-scale systemic oppresion of men that trans men are being affected by. That doesn't exist.

Trans women are sitting on the intersections of being transgender, and also being women. These are two identities that are systematically punished for existing, and that's why transmisogyny is a useful word and concept to understand.

"Transandrophobia" is a misunderstanding of how intersectionality actually works. when talking about gender-based oppression, again, there is no systematic oppression of men for trans men to be uniquely affected by on top of being transgender.

(Im also not saying we don't face misogyny. Depending on how well you "pass" you probably do still face misogyny in your life. but being trans and facing misogyny as a trans man is not what transmisogyny is referring to. Transmisogyny refers to the intersection trans women sit at of, again, being transgender and also being women.)

I'm not the most perfectly educated about this, but considering the previous post on this blog (that i deleted) i wanted to say what i know enough to say.

Please read Whipping Girl by Julia Serano. Read Julia Seranos articles. Pleass listen to the trans women who have been trying their hardest to explain this to our dense asses to little avail.

Give a trans black woman $5 so she can buy a little treat.

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Hey nonny,

I'm glad you like my posts :) I like to make people happy :) I make what i wanna see, and as a black dude i really just want to see us existing...anywhere, really. Existing is hard, being happy about it is even fucking harder, I wanna know niggas got a chance at this shit. If yall look at my lil poems n shit and you get that from it, thats beautiful.

(as a side note, i been away for awhile and I should probably be clear about this: I do not identify as "transmasc" and I dont really like that word. I'm a man who makes posts for other men. I am a trans man, yea, but really i'm just a man. You aint do anything wrong nonny, i'm just making a clarification. your ask (and the tens of others in my inbox) still makes me happy :) ☆)

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Hey nonny!

Yeah i can do that for yalls, just like gimmie a bit cause like im not super aware of how exactly Aro folks be going about relationships so ive gotta go poke around and see what kinda affirmations i can make yall.

for now lemme say this: