aros/arospecs are amazing!!

Me, a closeted aroace:

I started working on these snakeskin patterns, and like three different people have said to me since I started showing them that they also look like butterfly wings. 

That’s one of the things I love about making these things, and about being queer in general: so much of what we are and who we are exists in these zones of fluidity. How we talk about our orientations and genders involves so much very personal interpretation and I like that this look really has that sort of fluidity of interpretation in it.

Yes, @apocalycious and I have been watching a lot of Project Runway together lately, hush. So anyway these could be snakeskin or they could be butterfly wings. 

•Ace/grey-ace lesbians

•Aro/greyro lesbians

•Aro-ace lesbians

Your identities don’t contradict each other, and are not “just internalised homophobia”. It’s okay if you want relationships that are sexual but not romantic - it doesn’t make you predatory. It’s okay if you want relationships that are romantic but not sexual - it doesn’t mean you’re “just scared”. It’s okay if you want relationships that are neither sexual nor romantic.

It’s okay if you are on the aro/ace spectrums and do feel attraction but rarely, only under certain circumstances, or if it fluctuates/fades.

Your aspec identity doesn’t diminish your lesbian identity and vice versa.

•Lesbians who are in/want QPRs

Wanting QPRs but not romantic relationships doesn’t mean you’re less of a lesbian. A QPR is an equally valid type of relationship.

Your identities and experiences are valid. It’s okay if you feel like your experiences as a lesbian and as [insert other identity here] are inextricable from one another - you shouldn’t feel like you have to leave one part of your identity at the door today, or at any time when you’re talking about your experiences.