Whatever happens, it's not my fault

I've been in one relationship before that lasted five months. During this time I really cared about and was attracted to my boyfriend, but I couldn't see it as something that would last for long and I still loved my best friend more than him. When they hung out I was jealous of my boyfriend for taking up my friend's time rather than the other way around, which is not typically how it goes.

Do you have any ideas? Does it even matter if I'm aro or not? Should I give up on dating even though my friend probably won't?

to put it extremely extremely simply: no, it doesn't matter if you're aro or not. but not because it's not worth taking time to figure out for yourself! i'll always say that labels are first and foremost a method of communication. if you feel like this aspect of yourself is something that you want to communicate to others, or be able to categorize for yourself, then it's valuable for you to find a word that works for you!

i am not the most helpful person for microlabels (i'm sure someone in the notes can provide some specific suggestions, if that's what you're looking for!) but i'm also a proponent of using gray-labels if you're unsure or in a place where it fluctuates. you can always use grayaro or arospec if you feel it's important but don't know where to place yourself within it. you can ALSO—protip—just say that you're aro! the aromanticism police won't show up at your door. and if they do then you let me know and i'll kill them myself. you can always just be aromantic.

if you'd like, you can take a scroll through my #am i aro if tag for some other people's situations/more of my thoughts to see if anything resonates!!

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Listen man, I was already kind enough to praise your small monkey in the DMs:

Listen man, I was already kind enough to praise your small monkey in the DMs:

Listen man, I was already kind enough to praise your small monkey in the DMs: