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6. think on the social advantages that you will get by admitting you were wrong: air of humility, bigger trust from the other person, getting to brag about the fact that you were capable of admitting it that one time to make the other person look stubborn

5. if it is the truth that you were wrong then by stating that you were wrong then you are being currently right

4. focus on the mental and intellectual honesty you are developing by admitting you are wrong, this will help you be more correct in the future

3. start arguing your incorrect point in increasingly outrageous and silly ways as to make it clear to the other person you recognize the sillyness of your position in a humorous way

2. pretend you had misheard something earlier and that this was the source of the disagreement, a simple misunerstanding, then act as if you actually agreed with the other person all along

in aotearoa, june isn’t our pride, it’s theirs. martha p johnson and sylvia rivera are their historical figures, not ours. the phrase that “you owe your rights to Black trans women” is true there, but here we owe our rights to (mostly) Māori historical figures. i have the freedoms i do because of the legacy of an entirely different set of people operating in an entirely different context at entirely different times.

But because of american cultural imperialism, most queer people in Aotearoa don’t even know our own queer history. Carmen Rupe, Ngahuia Te Awekotuku, the Dorian Society, Gillian Laundon, Georgina Beyer, and the Wolfenden Association are some of our queer history. We should know their names! we should know what they did for us! but because of the power of the american imperial machine, we don’t.

our national pride month should be july, the month that the Homosexual Law Reform Act passed in 1989. our two largest cities hold their pride festivals in february and march, respectively. american queer history has very little (or nothing, depending on who you ask) to do with our queer history. anecdotally, from my own queries, queer youth in aotearoa know more about american queer history than our own.

There are trans Roma women (for an equally marginalised and forgotten collective), and there are some local LGBT icons, but many people know better about the US pride originators than our own (including myself) because it is retold year after year as a universal experience.

And we don't even share the language! Many people do not even speak English and still know who Martha P. Johnson is. Not even articles in gay magazines will give the name of the people who organised or participated in the first gay parade in Spain in 1977 (8 years after Stonewall, because fascist dictatorship).

One of the biggest events in terms of LGBT celebration is Los Palomos, in Badajoz, and it takes place from the end of May to the beginning of June. And it takes place in one of the most rural areas of Spain.

I found this very interesting list of LGBT chronology of Spain, as a starter to know our history better.

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