As much as I don't like to do this, I encourage everyone to make sure you know who is on the side of all trans people and who are only looking out for those who agree with them, because a lot of people have the explicit goal of silencing and erasing transmascs from the conversation even more than we already are.
Let's get this straight, cisgender dynamics of misogyny inherently do not apply to trans people, so trans men do not hold structural power over trans women, nor vice versa. This isn't to say transmascs can't be transphobic against transfems or enbies, I have seen it happen, but the opposite also happens. And this is called lateral oppression. None of us have power over each other.
people who claim transmascs transition because we want male privilege (TERF talking point)
people who say that due to being men, we're inherently untrustworthy misogynists
people who say we face less oppression than transfems
people who say we're uniquely more likely to be misogynistic and transmisogynistic than even cis men
people who say that we're oppressors of cis women
people that use the term "theyfab" and "hefab" (derogatory terms that originate from 4chan to accuse nonbinary and transmasc people who were observed female at birth of being fake trans)
people who use "TMA/TME" (trans misogyny affected and trans misogyny exempt), terms that in a better world could be useful in some ways, but are used (particularly TME) as a pejorative for anyone the user doesn't believe is transfem, not just non-transfems. It's claimed that it is a shorthand for non-transfems, yet it is most often used to mean transmascs. It's also not how trans misogyny works, as as long as a bigot believes someone to be a trans woman, they are affected by it. See, the harassment of Imane Khelif by prominent TERFs, and cis women accused of being too masculine to be "biological women", especially gender non conforming, brown, and black women. It also doesn't account for the experiences of intersex people (cis or trans) or nonbinary people. Be wary of its unironic use
people who say TMA/TME are just like "black/non-black" (the actual equivalent would be antiblackness affected and antiblackness exempt, which has the same problems as TMA and TME, in that if a bigot mistakes you for being black, you are still being affected by antiblack racism)
people who say "transandrophobia, transmisandry, and anti transmasculinity" are not valid words to use for our oppression because they imply non-intersex allocishet men are oppressed or that androphobia is real (those words do not imply cis men are oppressed for being cis men, and androphobia is a real diagnosable phobia)
I don't even think this is all, but these are the ones I know off the top lf my head. Please be careful and watch out for bad actors trying to tear apart the community. Most people aren't aware this happens because transmascs are so thoroughly erased, and I want to do everything I can to make sure people know the warning signs. And this is not a declaration that all or even most transfems do this. The most common perpetrators of this are cis transphobesm but unfortunately cis people who would call themselves allies can fall into this too. Stay safe and support all trans people, and sorry for the super serious post but I felt is was important!
