You can be a kick-ass submissive and not own a single piece of lingerie
You can kneel in slip-on Converse just as well as you can in heels
Wanting to be wanted can lead to seriously poor decision-making
You can love someone and not be a match
You deserve as much pleasure as they do
Liars and cheaters will always lie and cheat
Not everyone likes the spotlight; itâs ok to live D/s very privately
Itâs ok to make things like rope bondage and tickling hard limits; itâs ok to make anything a hard limit
Dominants can use a safeword or otherwise stop an activity
Submissives can walk away; you donât have to be âreleasedâ from shit
Moving quickly rarely leads to longevity
Your gut is never wrong; listen to it
Itâs ok to not look like a fetish model; most people donât
Sex can feel good even without orgasming
Squirting orgasms are a bit of a parlour trick, and they donât always feel as good as other types of orgasms
If the effort isnât there in the beginning it never will be
You can defer to someone and respect them as a leader even while watching Netflix and eating steak nachos with your fingers
Dominants can get sick and be huge babies and still be worthy of obedience and respect
Not every Dominant is an executive with an expense account
Submissives can make more money than their partner
You donât have to say 'Daddyâ to feel it in your bones
Toxicity isnât gender specific
You canât always educate yourself out of raised-with-it bias, but you have to try
Itâs ok to demand more for yourself; having standards solidifies self-worth
Self-esteem requires active management
Submission doesnât cease to exist when youâre single
Submission doesnât just end when you hit 30 or 50 or 70
You donât have to do anything you donât want to do
You have to use your voice
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