If other people are making you feel like you as a trans man/masc being anything but a man/masc would be doing them a favour or be in their political favour these people are abusive bigots. If other people are uncomfortable with your pronouns and are telling you you're inherintly dangerous and a problem and they would be happier if you were a woman they are abusive bigots. Detransitioning or denying yourself your own identity does not support your trans sisters and siblings nor your cis sisters, do not let bad faith actors make you think it does. Your identity is yours alone and for you alone. You using he/him or undergoing a testosterone based transitioning does not go against your allyship nor have any kind of mark against your political beliefs or trans activism. A world without men is not possible nor would it be any good, it would be the death and detransition of millions who would be forced into early graves or lives that are transphobic and oppressive, you do not have to not be a trans man/masc because some idiot online is spewing radfem hatred. Please do not listen to this shit.

A world with you in it as your true self is a bright one, we need more of us able to be out, proud and alive! We don't need more sad, miserable, traumatised people forcing themselves through more trauma and oppression, the only way out IS via us all one day becoming free to be who we truly are! To say it slightly reductively WE DONT NEED MORE MISERABLE WOMEN WHO WISH THEY WERE MEN, WE NEED THEM TO FEEL OKAY BEING MEN! Do it for yourself and if you cant do it for you then do it so the next generation has more people like them to see, because none of us got to see trans men and mascs and know that could be us. We are so erased, we are so downtrodden, being louder and larger in number can only ever be a good thing. "Womanhood" isnt losing anything from you transitioning, you arent "betraying" or hurting anyone by being a man/masc. The only person being hurt is you if you deny yourself the right to your own identity.

A person who will not accept trans men/mascs is a transphobe. A person who is uncomfortable with trans men/mascs has internalised transphobia and/or is transphobic. A space that does not accept trans men/mascs is not a trans friendly space. Full stop. Do not let abusive bigots have ANY say in your life if you can help it.

And you may think i am using Abusive bigot too strongly here but i have to stress that yes, this is emotional coercion and abuse. It is someone trying to control you to the point of having a say in your identity. It is the same playbook as the emotional abusers who have hurt me throughout my life. Do not EVER listen to these people.