be kind to yourself

my number one piece of advice to you as someone who has been happily in a relationship coming up on a decade now is that someone who loves you should not make you scared to say no

maybe it is just the cat part of me but i have never felt held by someone who decided my boundaries were simply an obstacle to overcome to get what they wanted. and that can be as small as saying 'no i dont have the energy to do this today' but i have found that those who press the small defeats into you expect to do no less when it comes to things that could genuinely hurt you or kill you

bitch this is all you’re gonna get. this life, this face, this body. you better not ‘maybe in another universe’ your way out of everything. sit your ass down and face this. go make tea and have a picnic and read a goddamn book. kiss your loved ones, send that damn text, and hug your siblings. this is all you’re gonna get.