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When embarking on a new Ds relationship/ dynamic it is important  as a submissive that we know ourselves and as part of the insight into our future endeavour that we take time to  reflect upon what our core values are and that includes what our wants and needs are so that we may find mutual compatability and are equally able to have a discussion and open communication about what that is going to look like, often in vanilla relationships connections are formed based upon external compatabilities and interests and this is not exclusive to a Ds relationship, however I find that often in vanilla relationships further down the line they discover that they are not compatible because one is more Subserviant and the other taking a more leadership role only to discover they are not the natural leader or subservient sexual / natural being, going a little off topic here I recommend reading the book ' Leading and supportive love' by Chris M Lyon.

Needs:  Non negotioable fundamentals of fulfillment (an eg may be food, shelter) but in the confines of a relationship things that we need so that we can remain mentally and physically healthy to allow us to grow or flourish.

Wants: A want may be something you desire to have and is negotiable.

If needs are not met either in frequency or depth in ways that hold meaning for you  then you could feel unfulfilled and unhappy and trust may be harder to obtain.

When starting out on your journey thinking about the type of relationship dynamic you are looking for some examples:

🩶A one off play session (that may grow to more) bottoming

🩶. play partner only (you play together but don’t share a relationship outside of play)

🩶. relationship where you have other significant intimate relationships

🩶. long term intimate relationship.

When thinking about needs it may take some inner reflection.  Make a list.  Write down everything you can think of that you want or would like There are situations where you might list something as a want, only to realize later that it is a need and as you grow some of the things you originally wanted or needed may change.

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