Warrior Princess

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The Corgi Express 

A submissive’s decision to submit is a CHOICE where they maintain their voice, reason, & freedom.

You do not force someone to submit. Submission is earned and given/gifted. They choose to submit and they can choose to take it back.

Dominance is also a choice. You must choose to take on those sets of responsibilities. You must choose to commit. You can also choose to take your dominance back as well.

When choosing to enter into a D/s, dominance and submission isn’t just one person’s choice or job. It is something that must be done together. Everyone must earn their place, earn trust and respect. Everyone must put in the effort and willingness to carry and maintain their responsibilities. Everyone must strive for personal growth. Everyone must take care seriously whether it’s aftercare or self-care. Everyone must CHOOSE to communicate and try. You must understand that it is teamwork. Take pride in what you do.

Do: 

1. Love them hard, and hold them often.

2. Educate yourself about the condition.

3. Provide piles of validation within your dynamic. They need it. 

4. Use maintenance impact to help them cry if they do not do it on their own. 

5. Support them patiently as they go about healing. 

6. Remain calm. There are some things you can’t fix. She needs your calm.

7. Be consistent. Unpredictable people will make this worse. 

8. Be VERY careful with their consent. A misstep here could compound their c-PTSD. 

9. When they apologize a lot, appreciate the apology, and let them know it was unnecessary.  

10. Provide a lot of structure and routine. These are things that can help immensely with a partner’s anxiety. 

Do Not: 

1. Walk away or avoid them when they are suffering from symptoms or recovering.

2. Punish or get mad at them for having a hard time managing normal expectations.

3. Make them feel bad for sleeping more than other people.

4. Shout at them or make intentional loud noises.

5. Make their journey of healing from the condition on your timetable. 

6. Get mad at them for apologizing more often than other people.

Man Ray, 1952

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