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「紅顏知己」是一杯毒酒
2015-09-21 由 感情療傷地 發表于情感
這裡所指的「紅顏知己」出自某些男人的口,意思是介於愛人與情人之間一種情感狀態,可以說說很貼己的話兒,拉拉小手,喝杯小酒,也免不了升起些許曖昧的眼神,讓心也來點飄飄然。能被這種男人稱為「紅顏知己」的女人必是聰明漂亮的,其實就是懂得他的遊戲規則的那種;必是善解人意的,其實就是招之即來揮之即去不給他添麻煩的那種。而願意做男人這種「紅顏知己」的女人無外乎有兩種,一種是曖昧比男人玩的棒,反正也寂寞;一種是以為做男人的「紅顏知己」是女人的最高境界,又能夠提攜男人。
如今在有些人的眼裡情人是躺著的,欲望百媚千嬌;紅顏知己是站著的,曖昧養眼纏綿;老婆卻是跪著的,愛情卑微低賤。於是,有的人在欲望的路上死而後已,有的人在曖昧的空氣里行屍走肉,有的人在愛情的包容里不知好歹。
曾經聽到一個男人還很無辜地替自己辯解:「現在生活壓力太大,男人也很苦悶,有些話不能給老婆說,只好在去找個紅顏知己說說話了,她們的聰明細膩很能撫慰疲憊的心,對於男人這也是一件很無奈的事情。」
可生活壓力女人也一樣在挺,要是老婆們也個個去找個「藍顏知己」說心裡話了,男人們是否還能如此的裝蒜呢?不過是一場「無性外遇」,就變得那麼冠冕堂皇起來。如果真有些話是老婆也不能說的,那就應該爛在肚子裡,別說出去有朝一日又成為了把柄,當「知己」翻臉為「禍水」,你又怪「紅顏」。如果夫妻之間出現了問題,我們不能勇敢直面妥善處理,而是都用「紅顏」之類的婚外曖昧來做所謂的補償,又把握不住身體也跟著出軌歡愉,那受害的就不止是男女,而是整個精神世界。當我們都被情感重創到爬不起來的時候,誰還相信你?你又還能相信誰?
不否認男女之間存在著純潔的友誼,但往往因為時間、空間或現實的限制,我們大多數時候只能把這樣的友誼保存在記憶里,或保持距離才能夠得以永遠美好。「紅顏知己」也許會有些乾淨的開始,但過程一定會變味,因為其中的分寸極難把握,我們都不是聖人。一但過了界,友誼蕩然無存不說,「紅顏知己」就又有可能成了男人眼中的「紅顏禍水」,搞出一場身敗名裂,妻離子散也是有可能。
而且,這個時候男人本來看中的那「紅顏」們身上的聰明,就變成了穿心的利箭,讓他們死無葬身之地。喜歡做男人這種「紅顏知己」的女人也不是什麼真正的聰明,被男人要麼視做寵物,要麼當成是精神的垃圾桶是悲哀。把隨便什麼男人的誇獎都當做是驕傲炫耀的資本,以為拯救了看似悲傷的男人自己就是女人中的精品,不過是女人的幼稚罷了。
善於傾聽當然是美德,可什麼人的什麼話你都當真的聽,知己做了還要再冠以「紅顏」,難道只是想證明你的純潔或她的美麗?知道這世間也有皇帝的新裝嗎?知道有被束之高閣的冷暖自憐嗎?知道「紅顏」變「禍水」後的淒涼嗎?
作為世俗生活里的平常男女們,沒結婚的找單身的,才會越玩越開心,結了婚的回家找老婆,才會越玩越順心。不然,你就自己去和自己玩,別去找不自在。男人別把自己看的有多「高尚」,以為沒有肉體上的出軌情感就可以升華為純潔,可交往的目的就不純結果又怎麼可能純潔?
女人也別把自己看的有多「偉大」,以為提攜了男人就會得到回報與感激。就算你真的成功了,那被提攜後的男人第一個拋棄的就會是你,因為男人們更喜歡找一個需要他們提攜的女人過日子。所以,也就又有了一些薄命的紅顏在塵世里獨自飄散。可誰是誰的毒呢,誰是又誰的蠱?
別以為沒有了這些「紅顏」、「藍顏」情感就會僵化,愛情只會在兩個忠誠的男女之間多姿多彩,情感也只會在道德的約束里綻放出人性的溫暖。如果明知是毒你也願意飲,能理解,因為出軌的誘惑大了,背叛的籌碼夠了,那就一切恩怨不必說,一切後果自己擔。如果你喜歡用「紅顏知己」這個詞來形容最崇高的男女友誼,那和本篇文字的內容無關,別矯情。其實,除了你身邊愛你的人,沒人在乎你想什麼,你又在做什麼。
這種所謂的「紅顏知己」,不過是某些男人的自私加某些女人的幼稚釀造出的一杯毒酒,在那些瀰漫著物慾與曖昧的場所,倒在精緻的玻璃杯里,散發著琥珀色的光澤,似乎讓人很難拒絕。於是一飲而盡後男人女人就都會中了毒,還是慢性的,再沒有了原本想像的美好與安穩。在片刻的自我愉悅,自我陶醉後,就只剩下男人們的掙扎,女人們的情殤了。你有困惑,只是沒必要利用和你無關的女人,你有選擇,只是沒必要總玩曖昧。我是紅顏,但不會成全你的偷歡;我是知己,但不會為你帶上曖昧的面紗。
男人當然可以有女性朋友,只是別弄成什麼這樣的「紅顏知己」,更不必偷偷摸摸,純潔的友誼無需證明也永遠值得祝福。高尚的男人只會把相愛的女人看成是世間那麼多紅顏里的,唯一知己。女人也當然可以有男性朋友,只是別太把他們的誇獎與要求當回事,又弄出個什麼那樣的「藍顏知己」。幸福的女人只會把愛自己的男人當成寶,哪怕風雨兼程也充滿著信任與寬容,不離不棄。
男人並不需要異性好友,有一個紅顏知己就夠了
2018-07-08 由 數理 發表于情感
女人的「好基友」和男人的「好閨蜜」,歷來就是一顆危及感情的定時炸彈,一個不留神就可能兩敗俱傷。
就像女人有個非常娘炮的異性好友,往往會挑惹男人的質疑與誤解,他們之間真的從未有過超越友情的心思?
同理反過來作用於女性,則會變成另一番硝煙戰場,為什麼他偏偏得有一個紅顏知己?
這一點在已婚女性身上表現得尤為明顯,明明自己最了解老公的心性,可是為何他一邊離不開自己,一邊又要「呵護」所謂的紅顏知己?
幸好男人的心思挺好猜,即便女人之前覺得不可理喻,根據以下幾點分析,也能大概推斷自己另一半緣何對紅顏知己情深義重。
1.有一個聰敏知性的紅顏知己倍兒有面子
對一個已婚男人而言,看著別的男人婚後鬱鬱不平,自己卻能自由社交,這未嘗不是一種正合心意的炫耀。
當別人都被老婆管得束手束腳,自己卻有一個優秀的紅顏知己,這待遇光是想想做夢都要笑醒。
要是自己在婚後真能這麼瀟灑,那傳出去就是給自己臉上貼金的美事,估計走在路上腳下都能生風。
她知性大方、聰明上進,為人處事進退得當,如此優秀的女人又是自己的紅顏知己,愛面子的男人巴不得這輩子都不放手。
2.距離恰到好處可以激發最大程度的默契
這世間總有一種情愫,無關乎愛情與友情,卻能讓一對男女沉溺其中不願醒來。
若要將其具象化,恐怕「紅顏知己」就是最好的詮釋方式,因為這個稱謂包含了太多的深意。
難忘的愛情太短暫,平淡的婚姻太煩悶,男人只有和紅顏知己才能情誼長久,也才能在那種「看不破說不穿」的環境裡培養默契。
並不是說夫妻之間缺乏默契,而是不跨越婚姻界限的女人,總比扮演妻子的女人更豁達聰慧。
3.不占有卻心意相通能讓男人卸下防備
之所以男人覺得沮喪鬱悶,就是另一半在婚前婚後的表現,對比之下簡直天差地別。
女人一旦成為人妻,身份的改變也會影響個人心性,比如溫柔體貼將不復存在。
她們再也無法客觀地看待丈夫,只想一門心思獨霸男人,這種小肚雞腸和紅顏知己的開朗大方高下立現。
所以男人總會下意識認為,自己遇上什麼糟心事,與其找老婆吐槽還不如跟異性知己談心。
也許在老婆面前還要故作堅強,但面對紅顏知己,男人不僅可以卸下心防做自己,甚至能暢快淋漓地哭一場。
那種時刻紅顏知己發揮的作用,就是理解男人偶爾的軟弱,並能真心撫慰這種人性苦楚。
4.友情能為自己提供超越愛情的無償奉獻
男人的事業遭到重創,家庭生活一團亂麻,生活的各種打擊讓人一蹶不振。
此時做妻子的不夠懂事體貼,就免不了在男人耳邊冷嘲熱諷,沒什麼比這種境況更傷害夫妻感情了。
但若有一個貼心的紅顏知己,在這種危難關頭伸出援手,一路不離不棄地力挺自己,男人的心思不動搖才不正常。
紅顏知己不僅不向男人提什麼物質要求,還無怨無悔地給予精神支持,這是很多人妻在婚姻中無法真正表達的獨特情懷。
有句話說,一個女人要想成為男人的永恆,要麼成為他的母親,要麼就當他始終得不到的紅顏知己。
當男人一朝變成別人的老公,對紅顏殘念的情愫縈繞不去,女人成為妻子更應儘早體悟,避免為此產生不必要的情感紛爭。
原文網址:https://kknews.cc/emotion/9o32n9q.html
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Valentine Low Book Extract - Harry and Meghan: ‘They felt cornered, misunderstood, deeply unhappy’
The Sussexes have been scathing in their criticism of the Firm. Did their departure need to be so bitter? In our third extract from his new book, Valentine Low reveals the tense negotiations surrounding Megxit
Before Harry and Meghan returned from Canada in January 2020 where they spent Christmas with their baby son Archie, away from the rest of the family, Harry sent an email to his father, saying that they were unhappy. The current set-up was not working for them, and they wanted to go and live in North America. Harry seemed to be under the impression that they could just sort it out by email before he and Meghan got back to London on January 6. The reply they got, however, was that this would require a proper family conversation. They were also told that the first date that the family would be available was January 29. It is not clear if this inflexibility was on the part of Charles, who was due to be in Davos, or that this was the response of his long-time private secretary Clive Alderton, pulling the strings. Either way, from the Sussex point of view, this went down incredibly badly. It fed into the narrative that they were not being taken seriously by the palace machinery, or by the rest of the family.
Harry had tried to speed up matters by arranging to see his grandmother alone before he left Canada. However, the message was conveyed to him that the Queen had been confused about her diary, and was no longer available. Harry was incensed, because it was not true: the courtiers had got in the way, it seemed, because they saw the meeting with the Queen as an attempt to pick the Queen off before Harry started talks with the rest of the family. As one source put it, “There was a danger that a private conversation could be interpreted very differently by two people.”
That was said to have made Harry so cross that for a while he considered driving straight from the airport to Sandringham to drop in on the Queen unannounced. He eventually dropped the idea, but it was a sign of his frustration that he even contemplated such a move. Given that the couple announced their plans to stand down on January 8, and the royal family met to discuss it all five days later on January 13 — the so-called Sandringham summit — it seems that the family diary was rather more flexible than originally appeared.
Harry and Meghan could be maddening, of course; they had already infuriated the royal family by pushing out their Megxit announcement on January 8 with the minimum of notice when all the talks had been about issuing a joint statement. But the palace also showed the sort of initial inflexibility that was always guaranteed to infuriate them. Harry and Meghan felt cornered, misunderstood and deeply unhappy. If the rest of the institution failed to appreciate that, even if their demands were unreasonable, the departure negotiations were never going to end happily. It is uncontroversial to suggest that the Sussexes would regard the talks as a failure. They wanted to find a compromise whereby they could live part of the year abroad but carry out some royal duties at home. No such compromise was found. Instead, they lost their royal duties, their patronages, Harry’s military affiliations, their security, their income from the Prince of Wales and, for official purposes anyway, their HRH titles. They pretty much lost everything, except for the freedom to do exactly what they want.
The rest of the royal family lost a much-loved member of the family, and saw the creation of a rift that has resulted in the self-exiled Sussexes still throwing barbed criticisms across the Atlantic. It will take a long time for the institution to get over the accusations the couple made in their interview with Oprah Winfrey, including the implication that the royal family is racist. No one in the royal family — on either side — can have been happy that Harry did not attend the memorial service to his grandfather, the Duke of Edinburgh, in March 2022.
In the immediate aftermath of the Sussex bombshell on January 8, when the Queen said she wanted all four households to “work together at pace” to find a workable solution, Edward Young, the Queen’s private secretary, was with the Queen at Sandringham. The first negotiations took place in Clarence House — Charles’s home ground — over the following four days, with the private secretaries and communications secretaries from the four households all trying to find a way to make the Sussexes’ dreams a reality. They gathered in Alderton’s office, a sunny first-floor room where paintings from the Royal Collection sit alongside photographs of Alderton’s own family. Young would join the talks on the phone from Norfolk, but for the first few days it was Alderton who was leading the discussions. (Later, they would all have talks at Buckingham Palace.) Simon Case, Prince William’s private secretary, who is now cabinet secretary, also played a pivotal role. “He was talking to both sides,” said a source.
The people sitting around the table went through five different scenarios, which ranged from Harry and Meghan spending most of their time being working members of the royal family, but having a month a year to do their own thing, to them spending most of their time privately, but doing a select number of royal activities. There was, according to more than one source, a positive atmosphere in the room: they wanted to find a solution. At one stage, Alderton made the point that if they could get this right, they would be solving a problem for future generations of the royal family who were not in the direct line of succession.
By the end of the week, the five scenarios had been worked through. The view from the palace establishment was that, however much time Harry and Meghan spent away from royal duties, anything they did would reflect on the institution. That meant that the normal rules about royal behaviour would apply. They should not act or take decisions in order to gain financial or other material benefits for themselves, their family, or their friends.
But the Sussexes wanted their freedom: freedom to make money, freedom to dip their toes into American politics. There was no way for the two sides to reach an agreement on that point. Crucially, it was the Queen who took the view that unless the couple were prepared to abide by the restrictions that applied to working members of the royal family, they could not be allowed to carry out official duties. One source said: “There was a very clear view: you can’t be in and out. And if you’ve got such clarity of view, it’s very difficult to say, ‘Why don’t we go 10 per cent this way instead of 20 per cent?’ ” Compromise was off the table, removed by the Queen.
Could Harry and Meghan’s departure have been handled differently? Did the most senior courtiers in the institution, Alderton and Young, have a grasp of the situation soon enough? Were they unaware of how unhappy Harry and Meghan had become and how bad things had become with their staff? Or were they burying their heads in the sand? Did they let a personal dislike of Meghan prevent them from seeing the very obvious dangers that lay ahead? One former insider has described how Young’s predecessor, Christopher Geidt [the Queen’s long-serving former private secretary, who was effectively ousted by Prince Charles in 2017], used to “walk the corridors” to know what was going on: did Young walk the corridors?
One former palace insider believes the way the developing crisis was handled was “incompetent beyond belief”. They said: “I think Meghan thought she was going to be the Beyoncé of the UK. Being part of the royal family would give her that kudos. Whereas what she discovered was that there were so many rules that were so ridiculous that she couldn’t even do the things that she could do as a private individual, which is tough . . . It just required the decision-makers to sit around a table and say, ‘OK, what are we going to do about this? What do you need to feel better? And what can we give?’ ”
There is, however, another view: that nothing could have ever saved the situation. The two sides were just too far apart. Another palace source, who has been critical of the Queen’s private secretary Edward Young in the past, said: “I think that it was an impossible task. I think in Meghan and the household, you had two worlds that had no experience of each other, had no way to relate to each other, had no way to comprehend each other. And Meghan was never going to fit in that model and that model was never going to tolerate the Meghan who Meghan wanted to be. So I think that it was inevitable that they would not be able to work together. I don’t think there’s anything Edward could have done about that that other members of the royal family would have accepted.”
Both things are probably true. There was a collective failure on the part of those who work for the royal family to recognise that there was a serious problem, to flag it up, and to try to do something about it. There were no high-level discussions any time in the first eight months of 2019 — when Meghan was later to say that she had suicidal thoughts and the first clues were emerging that the Sussexes were plotting an escape — about the nature of their unhappiness and what could be done about it.
But even if that had happened, I do not believe that it would have solved the problem. Their grievances were too deep-rooted, and the distance between what the Sussexes wanted and what the royal family felt able to give was just too great. Perhaps the best that could have happened is that the divorce could have been handled without all the acrimony that followed the events of January 2020. One thing is definitely true, however. If there were any failings, they were during the first year or so of Harry and Meghan’s marriage.
There is one final thought on this, and it comes from a surprising source, someone who knows Harry well but remains upset about what Harry and Meghan did. Their view is that perhaps the Sussexes’ departure was not the untrammelled disaster that so many think it was. “There is a part of me that thinks Meghan did Harry the greatest kindness anyone could do to him, which was to take him out of the royal family, because he was just desperately unhappy in the last couple of years in his working life. We knew he was unhappy, but we didn’t really know what the solution would be. She came along and found the solution.” This is an edited extract from Courtiers: The Hidden Power Behind the Crown by Valentine Low, published by Headline Books on October 6
source: https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/harry-and-meghan-they-felt-cornered-misunderstood-deeply-unhappy-cqfh0mfjw

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