Can you explain how you would free style? I've been on SA for a bit and it's a waste of time x
GTFO off SA for starters babes! Real talk doe. Here’s my solo freestyling tips ladies that live in large cities!
1) Look like a million bucks. Spurge on a new dress or lipstick to make you feel confident! I always make sure I got my hair done, nails did, everything done BIG before I embark on a solo freestyling mission haha. When I know I look good or sexy, it gives me that extra bounce in my step.
2) Location, location, location. Ladies, I can’t stress it enough. Unless you live in a rural area, you should know the hottest places SD’s hang at. For myself, I prefer lounges, hotel bars, and the occasionally boutique hotel or cafe. Everyone has different spots, but, for solo freestyling (which I prefer because I’m a loner at heart) I stick to my usual spots, sometimes randomly switching it up if there is an event or depending on the season. Men are more likely to approach if you’re alone versus a squad of women because of the fragility of the male ego. I’ve freestyled with other girls before, yet found most of them boring and moody. They would get pissed if men showed more interest in me, can’t complain cause I got a bombass personality and make people laugh, which gets me ahead of the rest. I’ve said it a million times, don’t rely on just being pretty! You gotta let that personality shine! I wasn’t the most confident growing up, but, I faked it until I believed it. Plus, an SD told me once “show me a beautiful woman and I’ll show you a man who’s tired of her…”
3) Make friends with the bartenders. The only reason why I say this is because I used to be one! You got a great resource and wingman behind that bar. They can get you into VIP parties and tip you on celebs coming by. I made good friends with a bartender from Chiltern Firehouse and he always gets me free drinks even when I come with a POT haha. Most of them are used to being mistreated or ignored, so they like being recognized and treated fairly ( I always tip 20% because I know how tough the job is). With solo freestyling, I usually chat them up right away to get a free drink and it has never has failed me. Once you start a fun conversation with the bartenders, other patrons sitting at the bar will join in or share their thoughts ( I usually debate about whats the best drink on the menu and others will pipe in and give their advice)
4) Make up a story as to why you are alone. Examples? Say you’re waiting for a friend but they’re having car or transportation issues. Say you’re visiting the city by yourself just for the weekend. Say you’ve been stood up if you reallllllly want men to pity you and get drunk for free. My usual story is that I’m a flight attendant with Emirates staying near X location and wanted to explore and get a drink by myself because my co workers are exhausted. That way no one will think it’s weird that I come alone often. Men love flight attendants that I will say! But, I don’t divulge many details about my lie and often ask more questions about others ( which is the sure way to get people to like you)
5) Entertain the first man that buys you a drink. Even if he’s not cute, doesn’t look like a POT or SD, do out of courtesy. Remember his name no matter what and use it because people like the hearing the sound of their own name. While talking to him make sure show off your outgoingness to him and every man in that room. Every now and then, sip your drink slowly and seductively, flip your hair over your shoulder, tilt your head and smirk while talking with a fella. Other men (aka his friends or patrons at the bar) will pay attention and try to get involved in the conversation. A man finds a woman more attractive when others are interested in her as well. It’s like women fighting over a pair of shoes on sale, they only find it alluring because others want it too. So just accept one drink if you’re not interested, keep screening the room, and finesse every man that tries to talk to you or join the conversation.
And that’s it folks! Honestly, it too me a while to get better at freestyling alone, but I love it! And I always meet interesting guys, make new friends at the bar, and get a free drink atleast!
























