Aremo Shitai Koremo Shitai Onna no Ko ni Mietatte

imo way too many people are going through life thinking they're just going to be sensitive to rejection for life because of how some people (not OP, but definitely plenty of ADHD influencers) talk about this "symptom." I don't think it's terribly productive that it gets constantly cordoned off as its own thing. like a lot of ADHD, while it sucks to have it shape your life up to the point you realize what it is, it is indeed possible to exposure therapy & DBT your way out of it.

What conceptualizing RSD as a category of trauma response to social triggers does is allow us to treat it like any other trauma response. It pulls RSD out of the bioessentialist framework and into the realm of injuries that can be treated, learned associations that can be unlearned. It turns out that the same techniques that help with PTSD triggers, including the same damn meds (hi, clonidine), are effective for helping reduce RSD. (It also explains why RSD is also common in autistic people, who often have a similar history of social error and narratives of self blame, without requiring inherent neurological differences.)

Ageless Linux intends to force the issue before the California state supreme court, then ultimately (probably) the Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS). It's a stupid, dangerous law, voted into place by legislators who either don't understand the core issue OR knowingly voted for it because they're assholes.

California is an influential state in the US. Many laws & regulations passed there eventually trickle out to most states. That's why it's worrisome to see this kind of thing rammed through, and why it's important to fight it.

like people want to think any disabled person who is after money is morally suspect some way, because they're not asking for "treatments" or "accommodations" like a lot of our issues can be fixed way more easily with money. can't drive? paying for a taxi is often one of the more accessible alternatives. can't cook? you can pay more to have prepared food delivered to you. food restrictions? that food straight up costs more money. can't clean? you can pay for someone to do that. house inaccessible? having (lots) of money can help with that, you get the gist.

People can dislike it all they want, but Alastor having his own code is canon. Saying he's more like Dexter than any irl serial killer is something that happened. There is no evidence that such a huge part of his character was retconed.

Him having a moral code doesn't "make him a better person". If anything, the fact that his moral code has been described as twisted and only really making sense to him, means he's still unpredictable and unstable. His violence is still entirely dependent on his feelings and whims, it's just that instead of "I am bored and am going to kill that guy for fun" it's "destroying things I personally find wildly offensive is fun" (and what he finds "bad enough to justify killing someone" is not consistent doesn't make sense to most people because it's personal to his own triggers).

He likes to project the image of someone who only does anything for entertainment because he wants to control how he's percieved. Tbh I wouldn't be surprised if he thought that people would exploit the hell out of him if they knew he had a "code" (either using his triggers intentionally to fuck with him, or everyone in the pentagram in a shitty situation asking him for help and he doesn't want to feel obligated to help anyone. Mimzy gets those privileges because they've known eachother for a century and as far as we know she has yet to pressure him into anything he doesn't want to do.)

This is pure speculation but: he might even lie to himself about his motives because he thinks having feelings is a weakness! He wants to be a demon who kills for fun because then there's nothing to interrogate.

I totally agree. It also bugs me that people act like killing for fun and having a twisted moral code are mutually exclusive things. Those are absolutely things that can coexist since going against your moral code would make things less fun. It doesn't make Alastor a good person. It is just something that Vivzie gave the character as part of his duality.

And of course, it is still canon. They could have presented Alastor's victim in the flashback as a random person picked off the street, but they went with a person making the choice to be racist to him. Through that, they give us a hint of his moral code.

I don't think Alastor would ever admit to having any kind of moral code. As far as he is concerned, he is an evil demon who does these things for fun. Any guide that he uses in selecting his victims is just to make things more fun for himself. Alastor fully views himself as evil and has no desire to be seen as otherwise.

The absolutely pervasive mentality that unwanted criticism or critique shouldn't be given and should be ignored is why fans of color don't stay in fan spaces.

And I am not going to mince words here:

A lot of you are racist. A lot of your fan works are racist.

That might have been difficult to hear. And if it was, you should probably reflect on why that was.

"Fandom etiquette" has created a space where fans of color either bite our tongues and eventually leave or say something, get dogged on, and then eventually leave.

then someone gets brave and makes a character who is a real bastard and makes all the wrong choices and is maybe even malicious at times and they make this character explicitly queer. and then fans are like "this is what you think of us?? worst representation ever" and the creator gets absolutely lambasted, ESPECIALLY if theyre queer themselves

then everyone else sees this and either thinks its too risky to include a queer character, or wants to make sure they're only doing the good and nice representation with no flaws or mistakes

He puts up with Box Vox's shoulder touching despite it being uncomfortable.

He let's Niffty crawl all over him. We know he likes her and that she doesn't do it to make him uncomfortable, but we also know he's not a fan of touching.

He let's Mimzy bring tons of problems his way and clearly uses him for personal gain, a dynamic that might have been present during their time on Earth. Had it not jeopardized the terms of his deal with Rosie and her personal interest in the hotel, he would have let this lopsided dynamic continue.

random bullshit go!

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