Unfuck Your Habitat Fundamentals
20 minutes is not a long time. Marathon cleaning sessions, while satisfying, are exhausting and make you never want to clean ever again. 20 minutes at a time, once or a few times a day, is a sustainable way of keeping your habitat unfucked.
PUT IT AWAY. Probably 75% of our mess is made up of things we didnât put away. Whether it belongs in a drawer, in the closet, in the trash, or in the cabinet, make sure it finds its way home. This is critically important in two areas, especially: laundry and the dishes. Doing laundry and doing the dishes are not difficult tasks, but most of us give up before the âputting it awayâ step. Donât. As soon as itâs done, everything goes back to its home.
Most of the rest of our mess is because we have too much stuff and not enough places to put it. There are two solutions: less stuff, or more storage. Less stuff is, in the long run, almost always the better solution.
GET STARTED. Look, housework is a pain in the ass, and itâs rarely fun. No one is disputing that, but it isnât hard. What is hard is overcoming your own lack of motivation to just get up and do something. Anything.
When your flat surfaces are clear, you feel like youâre making serious progress. Counters, tables, dressers, nightstands, etc. Try it.
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO UNFUCK EVERYTHING ALL AT ONCE. In fact, you shouldnât. Thatâs how burnout happens. One thing at a time.
TAKE BREAKS. Itâs important for your state of mind. You can integrate cleaning into everything else you do. It doesnât have to be all-or-nothing.
You can only change your own habits. If youâre dealing with roommates or spouses or kids or parents who arenât on board, the best you can do is tell them what youâre doing (trying to keep ahead of the mess), and ask them to help to not make it worse. Getting passive-aggressive or resentful because other people arenât playing along only hurts you, and itâs not good for your brain.
A little effort now saves you a lot of work in the long run. Thatâs why I advocate getting your stuff together at night for the next morning. Thatâs why I like dumping some cleaner in the toilet or tub or sink and letting it start to work while I do something else. Thatâs why taking the extra five seconds to wash your fork or put it in the dishwasher will always be a good idea, because itâll stop Dish Mountain before it starts.
STOP MAKING EXCUSES. Yes, yes, you have a million excuses why your mess has taken over. But I refuse to believe that you canât spare 20 minutes, once a day, toward improving where you live. If youâre still making excuses, you donât really want to do it. If you realize that 20 minutes is really no big deal, I can pretty much promise that things will get drastically better pretty quickly.
If you are someone dealing with physical limitations, chronic illness, chronic pain, mental illness, or any other situation that makes getting your living environment under control difficult, please know that you are not lazy, and that I know that âgetting off your assâ may not be easy or even possible sometimes.
I encourage anyone who has limitations to modify challenges, suggest alternatives, and, above all, put their health first. If you can only do five or three minutes of unfucking, thatâs worth celebrating. If you accomplish something thatâs been modified so you can do it seated or in shorter stages, we want to hear about it.
Most importantly: do what you can. Some days, this might not be as much as youâd hoped. Thatâs OK. Even tiny progress is still progress, and small but consistent change is more important than overnight miracles. You can do this. And if you get overwhelmed or discouraged, weâll do our best to help.
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